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Everybody always wants to know how to expand your social circle, but you FIRST need to learn how to improve your social skills to do that. Makes sense, right? But how do you do it then?

How do you improve your social skills? That’s what this blog post is all about.

In previous blog posts I talked about how to expand your social circle and meeting women through your social circle thanks to your lifestyle, but today we take a step back…

Why?

Because I can talk about expanding your social circle all I want, but if you don’t know how to talk to people then it’s all worthless. Sure I can show you the best ways to make friends, but if you SUCK at making new friends? Then it’s all worthless.

Take me for example. My best friends used to be books… and then movies and the videogames I played on my Xbox. I’ve come along way from that to befriending the most popular people in town. At first making new friends was hard. It was difficult.

Have you ever felt alone because you didn’t have that many friends? Have you ever felt bored out of your freaking mind because none of your friends could hang out while you had nothing to do? Then pay attention…

Because the tips below will help you on your way to make new friends, even if you have ZERO friends right now.

So if you want to improve your social skills and get as many friends as you want? Then dude, welcome to my wonderful world of tricks to start doing that! Let’s take a look…

How To Improve Your Social Skills Tip #1: The Minute Mission

Have you ever noticed that every time you’re in a store and someone talks to the guy or woman behind the counter, that the conversation never lasts more than a minute?

No? Then start paying more attention, damn!

These wannabe conversations are nothing more than playing polite, because the conversation never goes any further than:

“Busy day?” or “How’s your day going?” Or it’s some useless comment about the weather or what you’re buying. Bad news my friend: it’s very likely that you’re playing polite all the time. Stop doing that!

If you want to improve your social skills, then you need to get better at the art of conversation. You need to get a feel for what topics and what comments people respond well too.

Once you know that, then people in general will respond to you in a much more positive way. They will like you more. They will become your friends much more easily if only you just keep talking and agree to talk again soon.

That’s all there is to it.

So you need to go on a more than a minute mission. Mission briefing:

Every time you go to a store to buy something? Talk to the person behind the counter longer than a minute. Talk for as long as you possibly can and until the people waiting in line almost want to bitchslap you out of the freaking store so they can pay for what they’re buying.

Same goes for school, college, work, the bus station, and even social events like birthdays and parties. Sitting next to a senior citizen on a bench? Seeing someone who’s sitting or standing somewhere and just looking around with nothing to do?

Then talk your ass off dude! Every conversation in your life should last longer than a minute from now on. Trust me, you need the practice. Talk to as much different people as possible longer than a minute, even if the people themselves look boring.

Why?

The more diverse the kinds of people you’re used to talking to, the easier it becomes to talk to women later on. This is because you’ll be prepared for almost ANY reaction… and you’ll quickly discover that no two conversations with women are the same. So you need to prepare!

No conversation with women is ever the same. Every conversation is different, so the more experience you get with conversations? The better you can improvise and come up with things to say to keep it interesting for the women you’re talking to.

How To Improve Your Social Skills Tip #2: Heavy Talks

The more work you put into your longer than a minute mission, the more comfortable you will feel around people… and the more comfortable you will feel talking to people.

Once you’re comfortable like that it’s time for a bigger challenge: seeking heavy conversations. What I mean is talking about difficult topics with people you don’t really know that well.

Why do this? Why seek heavy conversations? Here’s the reason why:

If you want to meet women and then actually date them, then sooner or later there’s a conversation about sex pretty early on, maybe even BEFORE the first date. Most people are not comfortable talking about it, but you need to feel comfortable about it or your job of getting dates becomes much more difficult. I guarantee it.

Women also have a habit of doing an “interrogation” when they’re interested in you: they start firing one question after another at you to see if they should be MORE or LESS interested in you. The “interrogation” usually happens during the first conversation after you get a woman’s phone number, email, Facebook, or any other form of contact information.

She could ask about politics, your ex(es), about what you want to do with your life. Tough questions. Difficult conversations. Do you see now why it’s smart to get used to having difficult conversations?

So how do you take this next step? How do you become comfortable with talking about topics like sex, exes, politics and other heavy stuff?

Here are some good starting points for you:

1) Most men hardly ever talk about sex with their male friends… and if they do? They’re bragging about how they screwed some chicks brain out, but nothing more. No explanations of techniques or anything. Start talking about sex with your friends and go in-depth: how do you do this or that? What do you enjoy most? What’s the worst thing that ever happened to you? Etc.

2) Politics and religion always lead to heated discussions. Try to find people with a DIFFERENT political point of view and/or a different religion and discuss what you believe and what they believe.

3) Talk to much older people about intimate topics. Here’s the deal: would you feel awkward if you discussed sex with your grandfather? Off course you would! That’s why having conversations about intimate topics like sex, exes, love, etc. with much older people helps you get comfortable talking about intimate stuff more than anything else.

Yes, it’s challenging to talk about heavy and intimate stuff with people you don’t know that well. That’s why you’re doing it…

Don’t believe me? Think about it: 9 out of 10 times you won’t know a woman you want to date well.

If you practice talking about heavy and intimate topics, you’ll be more than ready for it when a woman mentions sex or exes or whatever… OR… you can start talking about it yourself.

Here’s a juicy secret: women expect men to not be that open about intimate stuff. Women expect men to hide or only reveal a part of their feelings. Women expect men to not talk that much, and especially not about heavy topics. Then you come around… and guess what happens? Attraction happens! Why?

You’re a guy who talks openly about everything, who shares his feelings, who can talk for hours. You will instantly stand out from all other men a woman will have met. She will see you as a very confident guy, only because you can talk about everything with her. She will love you for it!

And in case you’re just looking to make more friends: you still need to get comfortable talking about heavy and intimate topics. Why? Because truly social people can talk about anything with anyone for as long as they want. Be one of these truly social people starting today!

Improve Your Social Skills By Improving Your Confidence 1st

Time out! Let’s not go too fast here.

Listen, if you are now where I was back in January 2003… then you may be a little people shy. You may have social anxiety where you’re not only afraid of approaching women, but afraid of talking to total strangers as well. That’s okay. You can fix this… by improving your confidence.

And I just want to say: I’ve been there. Everyone has his insecurities. I used to be insecure about my incredibly bad eye-sight that forced me to wear glasses throughout high school. What are you insecure about?

No matter what you’re insecure about and no matter how people shy you are? I can help you thanks to my knowledge of human psychology. Inside my Inner Game newsletter you will discover how to instantly improve your confidence, get rid of your people shyness, and more thanks to a psychology technique called “Mind Lines”…

So if you want to improve your confidence, then definitely check out my daily Inner Game newsletter with free tips right away.

Moving on…

How To Improve Your Social Skills Tip #4: Dale Carnegie

We’ve covered a lot of ways to get comfortable with having a conversation with everyone about any topic. Just imagine how this improves your social skills: you can become friends with the coolest people you’ll see all around you, because you can now talk about anything with them…

There’s one more important insight from self help guru Dale Carnegie I want to share with you.

This one comes straight out of his masterpiece How To Win Friends & Influence People:

“Everyone you will ever meet is your friend, because there are only friends and future friends…”

Don’t worry: this is NOT a hippie, “we love peace” type statement about how you should love Mother Nature. This is VERY practical advice. See everyone as friends and future friends. Why?

1) If you really start believing in this mindset, then you’ll see everyone as friendly. This motivates you to help more people. Since people like to help you when you’ve helped them, you will make more friends. It’s a do a favor and get a favor world my friend.

2) Read the Dale Carnegie quote again. Now think about what you have always done when a woman rejected you: you walked away all frustrated. Instead of taking it personal that you’re not right for her, why not befriend her? The woman who rejects you is your future friend… because maybe your future friend has a friend that IS right for you…

3) The first law of social circle mastery is: you’ll never know who people know. Maybe that old lady you were talking to in the partk has the hottest grand daughters ever. Maybe her son can hook you up with a job. You just never know, know what I’m saying? Everyone can be a benefit to your life, you just don’t know how yet. It’s your job to find out. That’s why everyone’s your friend.

Do you realize the benefits of seeing the world as a bunch of friends and future friends now?

Great! I knew you would. You’ve learned quite a lot in this blog post dude! Don’t believe me?

Check out all the amazing stuff you’ve learned about how to improve your social skills just now:

- How to feel more comfortable around people
- How to feel comfortable talking to people in general, and total strangers in particular
- How to feel comfortable talking about heavy and intimate topics, even with women
- How to get over people shyness, social anxiety, or whatever you want to call it
- How to use the mindset of everyone is your friend or future friend to improve your social skills

Okay, so before I end this blog post I have to admit something:

I’m a caffein junkie, but if you have been reading my other blog posts than you already knew that. Say it loud: I’m a caffein junkie and I’m proud… or something. But here’s the real news:

I used to always… ALWAYS drink my cup of black gold (coffee) to satisfy my sick need of caffein. Until recently. Recently my supermarket ran out of coffee. Can you believe that sh*t? So I was forced to settle for drinking energydrink. The fuckers!

Without thinking about it I grabbed this red and black half a liter can of energydrink with a flame on it. It’s called Burn, but I thought that was just a silly brand name like Nike or Adidas. Until I drank that biatch: caffein burned through my system like CRAZY! It was unbelievable. I was shocked.

This Burn stuff is stronger than the coffee I make. And that tells you something. It tells you a lot. I’m drinking this Burn stuff from now on, because the caffein levels in it are INSANE. Long live caffein!

Okay I should really shut the hell up now. I hope you liked these tips for how to improve your social skills… and I’ll talk to you soon in yet another blog post filled with the awesomest dating tips on the planet.

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women

P.S. Are you a little people shy? Do you feel uncomfortable when you’re talking to total strangers… or when you’re talking to women? Then you can use the tips above to get started with feeling comfortable… and if you want even more tips? If you want to instantly improve your confidence and know what to say to strangers and women? Then check out how my Inner Game newsletter helps you get social and dating success. It only takes a minute to get your free social tips and dating tips, so check out the newsletter right now.

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One of the most important things I can ever tell you is this: if you want to meet and date more women, then expand your social circle. But expanding your social circle has so much more benefits… and guess what? We’ll explore most of them right here in this blog post!

First off, I just want to tell you that what I have always been trying to do with this blog and Win With Women is to give men everywhere on the planet more romantic freedom AND more social freedom:

- The freedom to choose who to date

- The freedom to create a lifestyle that attracts the people and events into your life that make you confident and happy

- The freedom of creating a social circle as big as you want that gives you endless amounts of fun and a way to achieve your goals, no matter what goals you have

That’s what I want to give you. I can almost hear you think: “Why is he telling me this?”

Because when you expand your social circle you will have the 3 freedoms I just described. Once you read my tips for expanding your social circle you’ll realize just how important your circle of friends is for your dating success and for your success in life.

I already talked about meeting women through your social circle in my previous blog about how to improve your lifestyle, but I’ve got even more tips for you! Time to get down to business. Let’s take a look at my tips.

Tip #1 To Expand Your Social Circle: Be Pro-active

Ninety percent of the population on this little rock in space we call planet Earth makes friends in a reactive way. Not good!

Just imagine…

You go to college and so happen to sit next to this dude in Spanish class. This dude starts talking about basketball and as a NBA junkie you react. You discover you two have other things in common as well, so you become friends… but…

What would have happened if you did NOT sit down next to the guy? Chances are he would have never become your friend.

Don’t let this be you: don’t just REACT to the people and events in your direct environment. No. If we use the basketball example then you should pro-actively seek out other NBA junkies.

Be pro-active (still using the basketball example here):

- Find NBA fan clubs and get heavily involved in them: go to all meetings and connect with people
- Go to as many NBA games of your favorite team(s) as you can and talk to the people there
- Get on a forum or in a Facebook group about basketball and get to know the people there

I can almost hear you think: “What’s in it for me? What’s the use? Why befriend pro-actively instead of in a reactive way?”

1) You never know who your new friends know, but they always know women. They always know single women you can meet. Know what I mean?

2) Pro-actively socializing means practising your conversational skills and your social skills. Women talk. Women talk a whole damn lot. So trust me: you NEED the practice.

3) The women at the events or clubs or sites of your favorite pass time. Think about it. Why are they there? They are either with someone or it’s a favorite pass time of theirs. That makes talking to them wayyyyy easier.

Let’s be real here for a second my friend: you need some confidence to say more than 3 words to total strangers, but I’ve got your back with my Inner Game newsletter. It helps you improve your confidence so you can actually start doing the 3 things I just mentioned.

Tip #2 On How To Expand Your Social Circle: Befriend A Connector

What is a connector? Here’s what Wikipedia tells us:

“Connectors are said by author Malcolm Gladwell to be people in a community who know large numbers of people and who are in the habit of making introductions. A connector is essentially the social equivalent of a computer network hub. Connectors usually know people across an array of social, cultural, professional, and economic circles, and make a habit of introducing people who work or live in different circles.”

In my own words: connectors are the people who hook you up.

They’re the ones that introduce you to the boys that have the exam before you need to make it. Hell, they’re probably the most popular people in school.

They’re the ones that introduce you to another guy from the company about a better job while you didn’t see any job vacancies.

They’re the ones that introduce you to a woman that might be your type…

How to find them? First you have to know the two types of connectors:

1) The ultra-social
2) The working connector

The ultra-social
It’s easy to find them, because they always seem to have access to things you’re looking for or would like to have. And off course: they always have people around them because they’re ultra-social.

As soon as you see or hear about “the guy who knows someone who can?” You’re about to meet a connector. Befriend him (or her!), because again: you never know who they know. You don’t know the women he can introduce you to… lots of women…

Since they know people from all walks of life? A connector almost guarantees that you’ll make new friends every time you hang out with them. It’s the fastest way to expand your social circle.

The working connector
The working connector HAS TO socialize. It’s his job. He (or she) is either a DJ, promoter, doorman or bartender. People who have one of these 4 jobs need to expand their circle of friends or they will get less tips. Or … they get fired because they don’t bring in enough money for the clubs and bars they work for.

Befriending a working connector is easy once you know the tricks. You see, most people who go clubbing don’t say more than “Hi!” and which drink they like to the working connector. Go deeper than that.

Next time you meet a DJ, promoter, doorman, or bartender? Say “Hi”, ask how he or she is doing, ask what kind of music is being played and if they like it… and work from there.

Then go to the exact same club or bar a couple of days or a week after that and ask the same stuff, introduce yourself, ask his or her name… and work from there.

Soon you will expand your social circle with a working connector that not only know lots of people and many women, but who can also get you discounts, free drinks, access to the VIP area for free…

As you can see: there are lots of benefits that come with being friends with a working connector!

Here’s a juicy secret: befriend female connectors and especially female working connectors. You want to hear why?

It’s because when you’re in the club and the women there see you having fun with popular women (the connectors), they’ll assume they have competition. Women want what they can’t have just like all humans do, so do you see the benefit here?

Tip #3 To Expand Your Social Circle: Become A Connector Yourself

Connectors have HUGE amounts of social power and not only because they have to be socialize for their jobs or because they like to talk a lot.

No.

Connectors understand a very important principle about how to expand your social circle: “do a favor and get a favor”. And it works just like the entire La Cosa Nostra mafia operation used to run, except for the hardcore crime, murder, and plundering off course.

Because connectors use this principle so well, they don’t even have to be pro-active about meeting new people because new people will find them. Why? Because more and more people want access to the connections that the connector has! OR… they simply want to be just as cool as he or she is.

The moment you start working with “do a favor and get a favor”? You’ll become a connector yourself!

What that means?

It means that you will be able to attract the people and events into your life that you want. I’m not kidding: you will be able to get almost anything you want, because you can use your connections to get it.

Here’s an example of how to use “do a favor and get a favor” to expand your social circle:

- You’re in college and there’s a big geek in your class who most people seem to ignore. But the geek has a skill: downloading top-notch quality movies and burning them on DVDs, so you befriend him. Now every time someone wants to buy a movie they come to you and they owe you a favor.

- One of the guys that got a movie off of you has family that works in a clothing factory. A girl who else gets one of your DVDs works at a restaurant. You ask both of them to respect the favor and give you a discount. Now you know someone who can provide movies, someone for clothing, and someone who can give a guy a discount when he’s on a date in her restaurant.

Do you see how this concept works? You simply look for a skill that someone in your environment has and you give your entire social circle and their friends access to the skill.

Since (as self help guru Dale Carnegie says) everyone’s your master in some area of life? All these people also have skills, so then you can send people to them if they need their skill.

In short: you will grow into someone who knows someone with skill A, someone with skill B, and so on and so on.

Guess what they call these kinds of people? Connectors. Connectors and mafiosi hahaha!

All kidding aside, being someone who has access to all kinds of skills means YOUR life becomes a whole lot easier too when YOU need to get something done.

It also means that expanding your social circle happens on auto-pilot: more and more people will come to you to get A done or to get B done… and so on…

And hey… you can bet your ass that women need stuff done too. A whole lot of stuff! It’s an easy way to meet women.

Tip #4 To Expand Your Social Circle: Simply Say “Hi!”

You’re a regular at more places than you’d think. In case you don’t know: a regular is someone who visits a place often. And you do that with your…

- Your work
- Your college
- Your favorite club

And there are probably many other places where you come often, but these are the best ones because MANY people are regulars at work, college, or clubs.

There you go and think again: “Why is that important?”

It’s important because to expand your social circle, you have to think long term. Here’s what you do.

1) You say “Hi” to ANY woman and ANY man that seems interesting at the places where you’re a regular

2) Next time you go there? Look for all the people you said “Hi” to and you greet them again and ask how their day is going

3) The time after that when you go there? You look for them again and everyone you see you introduce yourself to, ask their names, and invite them for a cup of coffee (or a drink)

It’s real easy to do number 3. Simply say something along the lines of:

“Hi! You know, I never got your name? What’s your name? My name is …. and it’s nice to meet you! I always see you here, and yet we never went and got ourselves a cup of cofee. Let’s change that! Let’s grab a cup of coffee.”

Here’s why saying “Hi” at places where you’re a regular works so well and why you will hear “YES” a lot when you offer to grab a cup of coffee or a drink somewhere:

In Robert Cialdini’s awesome book Influence, he shares a key insight about liking someone. Here it goes:

“We tend to like people who are similar to us more than people who are not so similar to us.”

In my own words: the people you say “Hi” to several times see that you’re in or that you like the same place as they do. That makes you similar to them and because you’re similar to them? It’s easier to BE LIKED by them. It’s easier to become their friends.

Just admit it.

Little did you know that the simple word “Hi” had so much power, right?

These 4 awesome tips about how to expand your social circle I just gave you help you to:

- They help you expand your circle of friends FOR YOU after you break up with your girlfriend and need to get out more. Once you get out more you obviously meet more women…

- They help you quickly build a new social circle when you’ve moved from one city to another city where you don’t know anyone yet. You’ll have new friends (and new women) within weeks!

- They help you practice your social skills and your conversational skills. Once you do that you’re only one step away from creating a circle of friends that introduces you to hot, interesting women

And right about now this EXTREME movie junkie is gonna go ahead and watch himself some movies. I’m thinking about watching the new Predators. Why? Because I loved the first movie with the invisible aliens in the jungle fighting Mister Terminator (Arnold Schwarzenegger) himself. It was freaking awesome!

But you know what? I want to do you a favor right now.

Listen: you may not watch as many movies as I do, but this tip is still something to remember. If you go to www.solarmovie.com you can watch the latest and greatest movies online for free in high quality. I’m not supposed to promote piracy on my blog so I will say this only to please the authorities: please buy the DVD of the movie if you like what you see online.
And hey… remember who gave you these tips to expand your social circle. Remember who gave you the free movies link too.

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women

P.S. If you want to expand your social circle and be pro-active about meeting new people, to befriend connectors, to become a connector yourself and to quickly talk to total strangers? Then you need to improve your confidence. Hell, it doesn’t hurt to know what to say to people either!

If you want to improve your confidence, work on your social skills, and know what to say to people? Then check out my daily Inner Game newsletter with tips to improve your life.

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Lots of men ask me for tips on how to be more confident so they can get more dates, but have you heard that if you know how to improve your lifestyle… you can meet MUCH MORE women?

I regularly share many tips on improving your confidence inside my Inner Game newsletter, but…

But your lifestyle is important too. Just answer the questions below and you’ll see.

Have you ever…

- Have you ever stayed home because none of your friends had time to go out with you to an awesome club or bar nearby while you wanted to go out? It disappointed you didn’t it? You wanted to meet some women but you couldn’t. It’s frustrating, right?

- Have you ever moved from one city to the next, felt isolated, and noticed that meeting women was suddenly much more difficult because you didn’t know where to go? First you seem to know everyone and then your life seemed to be pretty damn empty…

- Have you ever had a period in your life where you didn’t go out much and stayed at home most of the time? Try to think back to that period in your life: could you count the number of friends you had on 1 or 2 hands?

If you have ever been in one of these situations or still regularly get into them, then something’s wrong with your lifestyle. This blog will help you change that, because it’s a shame. What is?

You’re missing many, many opportunities to meet women because of your own lifestyle… and that’s a damn shame!

I can almost hear you think: “Why is improving my lifestyle important in the dating game?”

Scientists once did a research project on the attraction levels of men during the 60s and 70s. You know, the hippie ages.

They wanted to discover why some men were able to sleep with much more and much better looking women than others.

And what they found? What they found was AMAZING…

The scientists were quick to discover that the most attractive men were the men with the most NOVELTY in their lives. The men that did exciting, fun stuff in their free time got the most women.

Better said: the guys with an exciting lifestyle got the most women.

Are you starting to see the big picture here? Are you starting to realize that your lifestyle can help you meet more women?

Look, do you really want to be a guy who stays home during weekends or who spends months or even years on getting his next girlfriend? If your answer is no, then this blog post is for you.

This blog post is all about how to improve your lifestyle to meet more women. In a moment you’ll see how improving your lifestyle has a lot to do with expanding your social circle…

Because the ultimate goal of improving your lifestyle is attracting the people and circumstances that you want into your life. And you need friends to do that: your social circle is the key.

#1 Way To Improve Your Lifestyle: Don’t Fly Solo

Whether you love basketball, soccer, hockey, reading books, or watching movies like me: it doesn’t matter. If you really want to start attracting more women into your life, then flying solo has to go.

What I mean by that is simple: do as little as possible alone. Always invite people and always accept invitations.

Example…

Why read books all by yourself when you can invite friends or women to read or discuss books together? Hey, reading books can be boring but newsflash dude: 80% of the world’s readers are female…

And the more you invite others to join you to do some fun stuff together, the more they will invite YOU.

An important lesson from Dale Carnegie’s book How To Win Friends And Influence People is: you never know who’s going to show up too when you accept an invitation. Maybe it’s your future date or even your future girlfriend.

So never turn down an invitation: always accept, show up, and see who’s there. This way you’ll get to know many fun, exciting people who all know women you DON’T know yet…

Plus, never doing things on your own but doing it all with friends or women means you can practice your conversational skills, your social skills, and so on with everything you do.

If you want to learn how to know what to say to women, then working on your conversational skills and social skills can never be a bad thing right?

#2 Way To Improve Your Lifestyle: Keep Your Type Of Woman Close

There’s something I’ll never understand about 90% of all the single guys out there. I hope you’re not one of them: you go out once in a while, go to a birthday here and there, but you stay single. You hope you’ll find your type of girl somehow some way, but she never comes.

And you’re still wondering why you can’t find a woman that’s right for you? Come on!

If you know what your type of woman is, you should place yourself in as many situations as possible where she would be. It’s that or never finding “miss right”. Here’s what I mean:

- Like sophisticated, intellectual, artsy women? Make sure you spend most of your time in art galleries, museums, on culture trips, and in book stores.

- Like political or activist women? Go to peace rallies, conventions of political parties or debates, or join Greenpeace and similar organizations.

- Like Asian women? Become a member of Facebook groups called Asian pride, befriend Asian people, get your groceries in Asian supermarkets, always eat and possibly get a job in Chinatown, go to parties with Asian DJ’s or Asian themes. The list goes on and on…

Like I said: place yourself in as many situations as possible where YOUR kind of girl would end up in too.

When you start doing this, you’ll DOUBLE your chances of meeting your type of woman. If not more.

Start doing this and it will only be a matter of time until you will meet a hot, interesting, intelligent woman that is just right for you. I 100% guarantee it!

#3 Way To Improve Your Lifestyle: Never Stay Home

This is a BIG ONE. Never stay home when you have free time on your hands. Period.

I know way too many guys who stay home on a Friday or a Saturday because their buddies can’t go clubbing with them. That means they can only go clubbing if they go alone so they never go, because they think it’s weird.

It’s not weird if you show up ANYWHERE alone. It’s weird if you stay alone. Who cares if you need to go to a club or bar alone? You can always make new (female) friends there…

Remember how the social circle game goes?

It’s:

1) Make friends wherever you go and invite your new friends to do fun stuff with you
2) They will be happy to return the favor and they’ll invite you for social occasions
2) You don’t know who else shows up, but there will almost always be new women there…

Are you starting to see how meeting women through your social circle can be a never ending thing when you keep adding people to your social circle? And the best way to make new friends is to… improve your lifestyle with these tips for going out more.

Here’s a funny story: I once had a bit too much Goldstrike (40% alcohol with gold flakes in it) to drink but nothing to do because my loser friends bailed on me and didn’t want to go out. I didn’t want to stay at home, so I took a book about economics as thick as a phonebook to a loungebar downtown. Most of the night is a HUGE black hole in my memory, but I still remember how a pretty dark-haired girl approached me to ask if I was alright.

I playfully commented that although I needed to study for an exam that day, I came to make a statement: being a bookwurm and a party animal at the same time is more than possible. She laughed so hard and told me that was exactly what she was thinking. She studied medicine and had exams coming up as well.

Then I suddenly woke up with sweat dripping down my back and my heart beating like crazy in a strange looking room: gray-colored, papers and books all over the place. I was totally confused and, disorientated as I was, I tried to get up, tripped and fell flat on my face. Ouch! I just tripped over my own Economics book…

I was scared, because this looked like a man’s room! God no! I thought crazy thoughts: “have I been kidnapped by the Chinese organ mafia? Have I been raped by a gay looking for some heterosexual piece of ass? Am I being Punk’d by Ashton Kutcher?”

All the noise I caused made someone run up the stairs and slam open the door. It was the pretty dark-haired girl from the night before asking me if I was alright. I was relieved. No Chinese organ mafia or rapist homosexuals here. Just a girl who spends most of her life studying instead of decorating her room…

But then she asked me if we were in a relationship now that we had sex and if I wanted to meet her parents or not. Red alert! Any woman who asks for a relationship after having drunken sex is a lunatic! But I saw no way to escape and I got nervous. There are just too many crazy psycho b*tches out there who do awful things with a man’s sausage when you make them angry…

So when she walked to the shower and asked me to join her, I told her I would come in a minute. I didn’t know how fast to get the hell out of there! I wanted to get away from that lunatic who expected a relationship and “meet the parents” out of drunken sex. Have you ever tried to run down the street with your pants on your ankles? It’s challenging, trust me!

And it turns out she was a lunatic: she texted me for 3 weeks straight about how she would have her revenge if she would ever find me. And I don’t even remember giving her my number. Needless to say: she still has my book about Economics to this very day!

Moral of the story: you never know what happens when you never stay at home. It’s fun to experience crazy adventures like the one I just shared with you. This kind of stuff only happens when you get out more, even if you feel like nothing special is going to happen.

And now I’d like to throw some questions at you. Please answer these in a comment below:

1) There are 7 days in a week. How many nights a week do you stay home?
2) How many times are you invited for social ocassions? And do you think you can improve that?

And maybe it’s because I’m a total movie slut. Or… maybe it’s because I grew up on the Rambo, Terminator, and Diehard series, but I just have to tell you a thing or two about The Expendables.

It’s the first movie EVER in which Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallone, and Bruce Willis meet to kick the crap out of some loser dictator and his mindless slaves. I loved the body parts flying around.

I often end up in heated arguments with other movie junkies every time I say there’s something wrong with the movies of today: they’re too soft! I hate wussy movies to death. They make me sick.

The Expendables brought back memories… memories of how a REAL action movie should be: senseless violence where you see enemies being murdered for almost the entire length of the movie!

Hollywood is finally back… but I’ll shut up now and find more ways for you to improve your lifestyle to meet more women.

So more tips for lifestyle improvement coming your way soon…

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women

P.S. If you stop flying solo, keep your type of woman close, and never stay at home? You’re one step closer to creating your perfect lifestyle that attracts the circumstances and women into it that YOU want. What the next step is?

The next step is improving your confidence and knowing how to approach people so you’re easily able to make new friends when you do the 3 things I mentioned before. If you want to take this next step, then I highly recommend that you see for yourself how my daily newsletter can help you do that.

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