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If you want to get a second date after having fun the first time? It’s an entirely different ball game. Going from a first date to a relationship is VERY different from meeting women, getting their number, and asking them out…

But let’s take a step back here with a question: have you ever dated a woman and out of nowhere she seemed to have lost interest in you after the first date or several dates? I know I have!

Ever said you really, really like a woman way too fast which made her freak out and almost RUN AWAY from you? Again, I’m guilty to here: I did it with this Bosnian chick named Amra for example.

Oh come on! Be honest… drop the macho act for a second. Why?

Because almost every average guy has experienced it at least once in his life. And it’s frustrating isn’t it?

It makes a man desperate: You finally meet a beautiful, interesting woman. You manage to get her phone number. You have success with asking her out. But then, then everything goes to hell and you NEVER get a second date…

OR…

You never go from a first date to a relationship with the hot chick you like.

Don’t you just HATE it when you can’t get a second date? When you can’t go from dates to relationships? If your answer is a quick “YES”, then check out my top 3 tips for how to get a second date (and after a while a relationship).

Get ready for your survival guide for having long term success, for going on multiple dates with one woman… and do that with MASSIVE success.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you, because dude… this WILL be pretty damn confrontational!

How To Get A Second Date Tip #1: Your Expectations…

Women and men look at a date in different ways. We have a different mindset. And the sad thing about it is that men screw up their chances on a date too often because they take a date way too seriously. It’s why they never get a second date, or a third date, or a fourth date…

Women think of a date as “let’s see what happens” and “I like this guy, so I wonder where this will go”. They think about dating in a much more casual way than men do. The majority of women still think in the exact same way after dating a guy several times. You (and I) as men though?

Men think about the person we’re dating in a VERY different and more desperate way than women do.

You wonder if the woman you’re dating will be your next girlfriend. You ask yourself if you will be able to kiss her if you like her and if you two will have sex…

And the result is (too) HIGH EXPECTATIONS:

You hope she’s “the one”, you hope she’s your next girlfriend, you hope you will get lucky at the end of the date… and that’s a problem…

You’re putting enormous pressure on your shoulders because you think “I don’t want to screw things up because she may be the one so I can’t make mistakes”. It will only make you nervous, uncomfortable, and quiet… which is NOT what you need on dates.

By thinking about losing her or screwing up, you actually DO screw up.

The best advice I can give you right now: TAKE A CHILL PILL!

Work on relaxing and thinking “let’s see what happens” and “I kinda like this lady, so let’s see where this goes.” Develop a “female” mindset about dates…

I know that’s tough, but the rest of these tips will help ya. And you NEED to help yourself with your expectations, because guess what?

If you get a second date and more dates with a woman, you’ll start hoping that she actually IS the one. The stakes get higher with every date, so you get more nervous unless you do something about your expectations…

Which brings me to tip number 2..

How To Get A Second Date Tip #2: The “Three Magic Words”…

Most men suffer from too high expectations when they go on a date with a woman. And most men aren’t dumb: they know they need to do something about their expectations, but the problem is HOW they do it.

Don’t get me wrong, I used to do this all the time when I first started to learn how to date women. Sometimes on a second date, sometimes even on the first when I talked to a woman for months before I could take her out!

I’m willing to bet you have made the same mistakes, because 9 out of 10 men make this mistake…

Because you want to stop doubting if the woman you’re dating is your next girlfriend or not? Because you want to know if a woman is yours or not? You tell her how you feel (you tell her the 3 magic words: I love you) and you hope to hear the words “I feel the same way, let’s be together.”

We tell women as soon as the first date, or on the second date. This is even more true when we had to wait weeks or months to get a woman on a date… it almost seems leek you, me, and we as men CAN’T WAIT to tell a woman how we feel because we like her so much…

BUT…

A woman’s reaction is NOT “I feel the same way” when you confess your feelings early on.

When you tell a woman you love her too early, she will think: “How can you know you love me when you don’t know me that well? What you’re saying can’t be true, you can’t love the real me because you don’t know the real me yet!!”

And that’s when you scare a woman away from you, because:

1) You can’t get any more desperate than confessing your feelings during one of the first few dates

2) Because a woman believes you don’t know her personally enough yet after a couple dates (even if you’ve been talking for months), she thinks you don’t love her as a person. And my friend: women only want a man that has a genuine interest in them, someone who likes them as a person!

Best advice I can give you: If a woman asks you herself what you think of her during the first couple dates, only go as far as telling her you like her a lot and want to see where things will go. If she herself says she loves you, you can say it back if you feel the same way…

But when you’re not in one of these 2 situations? I would wait until you’ve gone on AT LEAST 6-10 dates before you confess your feelings.

By waiting for 6-10 dates with confessing all of your feelings, she knows you want to get to know her better. She knows you’ve got your own life. She knows you’re not desperate. That’s what a woman wants…

And remember: most men don’t even wait 6-10 dates before they say how they feel, they say it way too early. Do you realize what that means? It means that if you’re the one guy that waits, that holds off the boat, a woman wants to find out why. A woman will start to think you’re hard to get and she will make an effort of getting you and keeping you!

IMPORTANT NOTE: there’s a BIG difference between not confessing all of your feelings on a first or a second date… and not kissing her or having sex with her.

I go for the kiss (and possibly, sex) on the first date and I wait with my feelings for her (if I have them) until after 6-10 dates.

How To Get A Second Date Tip #3: Back To The Future

A lot of guys have asked me if there is a difference between dating and relationships. I always answer YES. I have experienced myself and have seen it with dozens of my fans and customers, that the dating game requires them to stay on top all day while the relationship game is a little slower.

What I mean by that is: in a relationship, you don’t have to create a connection and create attraction with a woman all the time. Sometimes you do, and sometimes you can just be together.

But in the dating game, that period from the first date to a relationship? It’s all about showing a woman what a future with you will look like… there’s no getting second dates if you don’t do it right

And none one wants a boring ass, predictable, stay-at-home type life filled with routines and obligations. Do you want that?

No? yeah I thought so…

The super boring life is actually one of the biggest reasons why “early relationships” (people who go on 1-6 dates) FAIL: it quickly becomes a routine, something that doesn’t excite at all. Why is it a super boring life? Because guys take their date to the same damn place almost every time or do the same stuff on almost every date.

You have to show a woman that she has a chance to be a part of your exciting lifestyle…

Show her your life is awesome and that she has a shot of joining the fun, the adventures, the risks, the good stuff… and she will fall in love with you. Guaranteed. Everyone wants an exciting life. People are drawn to those who have an exciting lifestyle…

The solution to the problem of the super boring future with you is real easy: switch things up.. and be unpredictable.

Go and do on a date what’s not expected from you, like indoor rock climbing, winetasting, or doing a little surfing competition against your date.

But whatever you do, be playful: don’t just sit there and talk. Tell her you’re feeding desser to her and then tease her with the spoon that “accidentally” misses her mouth. That kinda stuff.

And instead of going to the same place every time, try going to several places with entirely different atmospheres. Take her on an adventure date full of fun and energy the first time. Then take her on a very romantic date. Then take her on a totally relaxing date (a health spa, tanning on the beach, a beachwalk, a forest walk, a picknick, etc.)

Here’s a juicy secret: one of the most successful seducers that ever lived also used this strategy of changing atmospheres. He also went from adventure to romance to relaxed to mysterious atmospheres.

Wanna know his name?

His name is Casanova.

To summarize how to get a second date here:

- Lower your expectations and only think as far as “let’s see what happens” about your date
- Don’t say I love you and/or confess your feelings too early. Wait at least until date number 6
- Not confessing your feelings too early does NOT mean you can’t kiss a woman or have sex with her. Go as far as you can physically, but be careful emotionally or you ruin your chances…
- Show a woman a future with you is exciting and awesome: do something different and go to different places during several dates
- Change atmopshere during a dates or during multiple dates: go from adventure to romance, from relaxed to mysterious. Just like Casanova.

Here are some questions for the comments about how to get a second date:

1) If you think back, how many times did you fail to get past the first date? Do you know why?
2) Have you ever said “I love you” too fast? Can you name any other reason why you failed to go from date to relationship up until now?
3) What do YOU think is the best way to get a second date, a third date, and so on?

I love to hear from you, so be sure to comment with your thoughts or answers to my questions!

And now? Now this movie maniac and coffee worshipper is going to combine his two addictions by watching A-Team the movie while drinking his black gold with extra extra sugar.

I grew up on the A-Team series as a kid so I’m worried that this movie will be one big damn disappointment. But we will see that in a minute now won’t we? I hope you remember my advice on getting a second date when the time is right… and now it’s B.A. Baraccus time!

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women

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I decided it was time for some humor by sharing with you my serious and not so serious thoughts on meeting classy women, meeting sophisticated women, artsy women, or whatever you’d like to call them.

Courtesy of my friend Ashok: anyone looking to impress their date with their wine knowledge? This is the blog post you need to read, lol!

But seriously… women LOVE wine. Almost ALL women do. So who knows, knowing this stuff may come in handy some day…

You are planning on taking that special woman to a fine restaurant and showing her a night to remember. There is just one problem: you know next to nothing about ordering wine. Luckily you are planning on a true fine dining experience so the staff will become your secret allies in helping you look like a winner to your date.

A fine restaurant will always present the wine list to the man. It’s an unwritten restaurant rule. Not to worry, everything you need to know to impress your date is right here.

If your date is a wine enthusiast (= a near-alcoholic wine junkie) she may already express what wine she likes best. If this is true then your job just got WAY easier. Following to her wishes takes the burden off you and has the added bonus of making you look like a true gentleman.

If she and her (probably blonde) hair don’t know ANYTHING about wine, it never hurts to do some research. This is especially true if you want to impress your hot date.

Knowing more than the basics of wine and how to order will make you look classy, intelligent, like a gentleman… which DEFINITELY makes you stand out from the other cavemen she might have dated.

10 Tips When Ordering Wine

1. Consider the restaurant you will be taking her to. A simple menu will make it easier to choose the right wine to get her drunk and have sex… excuse me… I mean to have an awesome date!

2. Check out the wine selection in advance, either online or in person.

3. Wine prices can vary big time, so know your budget. There are wines that cost hundreds of bucks.

4. American wines tend to get their names from the type of grapes they are made from, like chardonnay.

5. French and Italian wines are named for the regions they come from.

6. Wines take different times to “mature”. A good chardonnay can take 20 years to mature, so never pick one less than four years old. Why? Because it tastes like sh*t and you don’t want to spit wine all over the floor of a restaurant do you? That ruins your whole gentleman-like behavior of the rest of the night, lol!

7. Ask for help from the Sommelier (pronounced “Som-mel-yay), or wine expert. He makes your job of picking a good wine WAY easier.

8. Avoid looking cheap in front of your date. Point to a wines price and ask your waiter their opinion of that selection. They should get the hint and make a suggestion in your price range.

9. When the waiter brings your wine to you for your approval here is what you do:

- Look at the label to make sure it is what you ordered

- Look at the cork of the bottle (do not try to smell it) to make sure the wine was stored properly

- Allow the waiter to pour a small amount into your glass, tilt your glass slightly, swirl your glass gently and bring it to your nose for a sniff. Does it smell good? Or does it stink like crazy? If it smells like vinegar send it back. If not, then allow the waiter to fill your date’s glass and then yours

10. Red wine usually goes with meat. White wine goes with lighter foods. Champagne goes with almost anything.

The best thing to do if you truly get stuck when ordering wine is to ask for help from your waiter or the sommelier (he’s the wine nerd, remember?).

As long as the woman you’re on a date with is not a total wine b*atch, you can count on the ten tips above to make it through wine ordering.

If you really want to up your game and look like the classiest guy in the entire damn restaurant?

Ask your date if she prefers a crisp or fruity flavored wine. It shows you care about her tastes.

If you and your date are trying food you usually don’t eat, like spicy Indian food, you should know that red wine is a bad choice. Pinot Noir is a good choice with spicy food.

And if you think using the sommelier (wine expert) as your wingman is weak, for losers, or gay? Then here are some “go to” wines that are sure to please almost every woman you go out with:

- Screaming Eagle
- Opus One
- Silver Oak

So relax… and order the wine like a man and make your date feel like the lucky lady she is. She’s lucky allright… because she has the chance to go out with a confident, awesome, and REAL man: YOU!

For more helpful dating tips especially on how to find your dream Indian Women, check out Ashok’s shaddi.com page!

Some questions you can comment on:

1) Did you ever need knowledge of wines on a date?
2) Do you ever drink wine? Or are you an anti-culture barbarian who only likes beer?

All this talk about foods and drinks is making me hungry and thirsty… so I’m going for top notch Pringles chips with excellent “maturation” together with an exquisite cup of black gold (coffee).

I can almost hear you think: “Dennis Miedema is the classiest guy around with his superb coffee manners and Pringles eating skills”.

I know! Thank you for saying that… lol!

But for real… if you ever go to a restaurant with a woman and she wants wine? Remember this blog post dude… I’m out!

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women

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What to do on a first date to have sex… but is that even possible? Why yes it is! Let me tell you something first though…

Women have hang ups about sleeping with a guy on the first date, not because they don´t want to but because it´s socially not accepted. They´ll be seen as SLUTS for doing that, for basically having the same sexual freedom as us men do, and they don´t want to lose their reputation or their self-respect. To some women, even kissing on the first date isn´t socially accepted.

The solution: most people go to one place during one date. Think about it: guy takes girl to nice restaurant or to the movies, and that´s it. If you don’t want anything happening on the date then I highly recommend you do this too, but if you want to know what to do on a first date to have sex?

Then listen up: make a journey of your day (or night). First grab a cup of coffee or a drink somewhere, then get her dirty somewhere else by going on an active date like roller skating, beachvolleyball, basketball, whatever. Why get her dirty? Simple: asking her to come inside with you so she can freshen up is being a polite gentleman, because no woman wants to stank up the place wherever she goes.

Result: the boundary to come inside with you will be really low when you offer her the opportunity to freshen up after an active date. This is the first MAJOR clue for knowing what to do on a first date to have sex.

Doing several things with her makes her think, in her mind, thatyou two will already be on date 2 or 3 or 4 because you did very different activities together, which makes her drop her objections for coming inside with you altogether… especially if you use the time given to you to create attraction.

After your “mini-dates” it´ll be easy to get her to come inside with you, but don´t jump on her right away (unless she makes the first move off course)… and you completely catch her off-guard because she´ll expect a guy who’ll be all over her as soon as she walks in with you. Make her feel comfortable and safe inside your place first, talk some more, kiss her, and then take her to the bed…

Say you´re not too creative and can’t come up with an “active” date to get her dirty, then a much simpler way to get her to come inside with you is to recognize her objections against coming inside and using them against her:

“Promise me something: that you WON´T be a rapist and be all over me as soon as I close the door behind me when I ask you to come inside with me.  I won´t regret asking you to come inside, will I?”

Another way to lower the boundary to coming inside with you is: make her get used to your place by telling her you forgot your wallet at the start of the date, letting her come inside with you and letting wait in your room as you grab your wallet. It will mean that the place already looks familiar when she comes inside with you at the end of the date.

But now you know what to do on a first date to get a woman to come inside with you, how can you go all the way without you OR her regretting it?

What To Do On A First Date:
Getting Physical With Her

 

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