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Do you really know the signs she likes you? You think you do, but how can you be so sure? Most men aren’t sure… and guess what? If you don’t know the signs a woman is interested in you, then you may be missing out big time.

The fact is not only are there obvious signs but there are little known secrets about how a woman’s brain works that you can use to your advantage.

There is nothing wrong with taking the direct approach: you see a hot chick at a bar and you walk right up to her and give her your best shot.

The problem is that you’ll look like a total nerd if you don’t know the signs a woman is interested in you.

Yes, knowing if she likes you isn’t as easy as in the image below…

But no, it isn’t difficult to understand body language either! You just have to know what to look for…

And once you know? You can relax, sit back, and enjoy a woman’s interest…

After all, why go through more trouble if you know she already wants you? That’s like shooting an irritating bug with a tank!

Or, why try to get her number when you clearly see she likes you not quite enough (yet)? That’s like bringing a piece of wood to a gun fight!

That’s why it’s important to know how to tell if a woman likes you. So, here’s my top 20 signs a woman is interested in you to make things real easy for you…

Top 20 Signs A Woman Is Interested In You

When is she attracted? Does she like you?

1) She is attracted when… she makes or tries to make direct eye contact

2) She repeats words you always use. Example: I always say “lame!” when I dislike something. I know I’m a big influence in her life if she starts saying “lame!” more than usual as well.

3) She is licking her lips when she looks at you

4) If you talk to her for the first time and she talks to you longer than she has to. Example: you get her number and she keeps talking or asks you questions after you get the number.

5) She is attracted when… she starts playing with her hair when talking to you or when she’s near you

6) If she calls you for no apparent reason. Women make a habit of calling the guy they’re most interested in when they’re bored. This is even more true when they are at a party, birthday, or other social event they don’t enjoy or didn’t want to go to.

7) She is attracted when… she moves her body towards you when she’s talking to you or when she’s near you

She agrees with you while she didn’t agree before. Example: she herself may say she hates gangster movies, but when you later tell her you love gangster movies? She suddenly agrees that gangster movies are good. She’s trying to impress you! This is one of the most important signs she likes you.

9) Every time you look at her she is smiling at ya

10) When going on a (first) date, she dresses up for it in a way you normally don’t see her do or women in general do. Example: when you met her she was wearing casual clothing. Jeans, a sport jacket for chicks, and so on… nothing fancy. But on the date? It’s make up, her nails and hair are done, lipgloss/lipstick on, sexy dresses or clothing that’s more revealing than usual.

Tip: if she also looked that way when you met her the first time? It’s not a big deal that she’s dressed classy and sexy. If she didn’t look like that before, she’s interested!

11) She finds a way to touch you when you’re talking to her

12) When going on a (first) date, she “suddenly” gets a call from someone while you were in the bathroom taking a piss. Or, when you’re with her? She walks away from you a little bit. Women make a habit of asking their best friend to call them after 1 to 2 hours so they have an easy excuse to leave if they think the date sucks.

Tip: if she asks a friend to call her and you’re not sure if she likes you? You’ll know she sees your get together as a date. That means she’s interested!

13) She is attracted when… when she looks at you and slightly tilts her head

14) If she’s talking to you and she quickly stops talking when you’re quiet and just looking at her. It’s an easy sign that you’re making her shy, which means it’s the PERFECT time to either tease her about her shyness or to give her a great compliment. This is another one of those easy to see signs she likes you!

Hint: see that little twinkle in her eyes? That little sprakle during the moment you two are both quiet? That’s the best sign a woman is interested in you. Best sign ever!

15) She sends a drink over to you

16) If you meet her for the first time, she’s with friends, and she and her lady friends whisper to each other and/or giggle while you don’t know what they’re talking or giggling about.

Hint: she and her friend(s) are discussing how hot you are and how far she’ll go with you tonight. No, I’m not kidding! Women talk about everything, even that.

17) She is attracted to you when… she crosses her legs with one leg pointed right at you

18) When making eye contact with her, she looks away first. It means she’s impressed by you or she wouldn’t look at all AND wouldn’t look away.

19) When trying to make eye contact with her after she looked away, she tries to keep looking away. It means she wants to look, but either there is someone else with her who doesn’t want her to look (example: her mother).

Hint: it can also mean she was already impressed when she first saw you and she is trying hard not to be desperate. Women that do this will get really, really shy when you talk to them because they’re desperate but don’t want you to know…

20) She lets someone say “hi” to you for her. Example: her best friend Amanda says “Cindy asked me to say hi!”. It can also be something like “Cindy says hello” or “Cindy sends her regards” or “Cindy asked how you were doing.”

Hint: Women usually ask their friends to say “hi” for them when they met you at a birthday or party and want to get to know you better, but don’t know how to contact you. It means they’re interested… AND a little desperate!

As you can see dude:

There are a lot of subtle and not so subtle signs a woman is interested in you. Just remember that her body will always tell you more about if she likes you than her words can.

Why?

Because studies have proven that 93% of human communication is done with the bosy and only 7% with the voice.

Unfortunately, the brutal truth is that most men SUCK at reading body language. A lot of men keep asking and asking… and asking me about the signs a woman is interested in you.

They just don’t know if the women they’re talking to likes them. If she is attracted to them or not, they just don’t know

So, when in doubt? When not sure if she likes you?

Assume she likes you.

There’s a 93% chance your doubts are WRONG because men suck at understanding 93% of human communication well.

Onward…

Although you probably know you should be smiling when you make contact, did you know that women respond to a warm smile even if you do not have perfect teeth?

Your warm smile indicates that you are fun to be around, that you are confident and that you’re open to talk and in the mood to make something good happen.

Women are very much attracted to that…

So, also ask yourself: “what does my own body language tell her?”

You should be relaxed but that does not mean you should look like you just woke up. It’ll make a woman assume bad things about you because the #1 secret to understanding women is…

Women assume good or bad things about yo based on every detail they can find. So, pay attention to details.

Got some questions for you, as usual!

1) Can you remember the last time a woman did any one of the top 20 signs a woman is interested in you? What did she do?
2) Which of the signs she likes you have you never heard of or thought about? Will you start paying more attention to the signs if a woman is interested in you?

Where nearing the end of my thoughts for the day… and of me resisting the urge to eat Pringles chips. I’m insanely addicted to those cans with chips in them, damn…

Anyways, me and my good friend Ashok wrote this blog post together so if you want to know more about him after reading the top 20 signs a woman is interested in you? Here’s what he has to say:

For more helpful dating tips especially on how to find your dream Indian Women, check out our shaddi.com page! And thanks for reading the blog post, there’s more on the way!

I hope you’ve learned more about the signs a woman is interested in you… and that you will now immediately know the signs she likes you only seconds after you meet her…

I’m out… on my way to get some Pringles…

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women

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Hi it’s Dennis Miedema from Win With Women and I’ve got some bad news…

Recent research has shown that although men are very good at recognizing negative body language (hostile threats), we SUCK at recognizing positive body language (indicators of interest, smiles, and so on). That’s the area of body language that women can easily recognize.

Do you understand what that means?

It means that by nature, we’re at a disadvantage in the dating game compared to women caus’ it takes us longer to see that a woman is interested in us… and being interested is the requirement for escalating things physically.

Put simply: if I don’t know a woman likes me, I won’t try to get physical with her… unless I would be a rapist off course.

Meanwhile, women decide what’s going to happen at the end of the day, because if they don’t feel comfortable and safe enough around us they won’t make that next step with us.

The result: getting physical with women is far from an A to Z process, it’s much more a two steps forward, one step back kind of thing.

Sounds difficult huh?

But once you know what those steps actually are, what they mean and how they relate… you’ll find that the 2 steps forward and 1 back approach to getting physical with women will almost always get you what you want.

Well now, let’s explore those freaking steps already!

There are five of ‘em: get personal, get friendly, get dominant, get facial, and get sexual.

Step 1) Get Personal

 

When I first started meeting and dating women, I hardly made any physical contact at all. Even worse, I didn’t even make physical contact with my female friends beyond two kisses on the cheeks on their birthdays. I felt really uncomfortable about it. Looking back on it, I can only laugh and say it’s sad because you HAVE to get personal if you want to get physical.

Here’s the juicy secret: from a body language perspective, humans have what I call “intimacy zones”. They differ from culture to culture but it basically comes down to this:

- Get within 0-2 feet – we know each other intimately: we’re dating, best friends, and so on
- Get within 2-4 feet – you’re a friend or family, whatever’s the case… we know each other
- Get within 4+ feet – I don’t know you or hardly know you

If I feel comfortable when you go into my 0-2 feet intimacy zone, so when you can stand really close to me for longer periods of time without me being bothered by it… you can bet your ass that we know each other intimately.

And the first step to getting physical with women is getting into that zone without bothering her. And to do that, you need to create comfort. You need to create a connection. Find stuff you have in common, make her laugh, playfully tease her, ask her open ended questions so you can get her know her and you can get as close as you want.

If you can see her getting uncomfortable when you get in her 0-2 feet zone, first check if she’s getting shy (which is a good thing dude – she likes you!) or uncomfortable in a bad way. If it’s in a bad way, it’s 1 step back and doing more of what I just mentioned before you try again.

That’s the 2 steps forward and 1 step back approach: you give it a try and if she isn’t comfortable with it yet, you take 1 step back and create more comfort for 10-15 minutes and then you try again until it works.

A “no” in the world of body language almost never means an actual no. It means “I’m not ready yet, give me more and try again.” So always try to take things to the next step and let her decide the tempo. You don’t care how long it will take you as long as it happens, know what I mean? Sometimes you have to lose the battle to win the war dude, so take 2 steps forward and 1 step back.

It’s real easy to get personal, but that actually makes a lot of guys forget this important step. They hardly notice when a girl gets uncomfortable, when she’s not fine with the closest intimacy zone yet. So practice it. Practice getting as close to her as possible.

Step 2) Get Friendly

 

Notice how good friends subconsciously touch each other a lot without realizing it… don’t worry, I mean that in the most non-gay way ever.

Some of the stuff you do with friends and family without realizing it gives you a way to make a woman get used to you touching her, which is VERY important if you ever want to get sexual with her.

It’s surprising for me to see that almost no guy who’s on a date out there actually does the stuff I’m about to share with you because he thinks dating and socializing are different… but they aren’t so far. Here’s what you can do to get friendly:

- Give a pat on the back
- If the teasing goes back and forth, push her around a little bit (play fight with her)
- While talking to her, let your hand rest on her shoulder or touch her upper arm (sounds awkward, but lots of people do it)
- Playful behavior: pinch her, tickle her, pull her hair, lift her up, mock her by hugging her if she calls you mean and so on

Here’s a juicy secret: if you want to get friendly really fast, start seeing a woman as your bratty little sister. How would you treat your bratty little sister if you and her would still be young? You would pinch her, tickle her, pull her hair, lift her up, mock her by hugging her if she calls you mean and so on.

Whether they’ll admit it or not, women love that stuff… so start doing it.

Why do this and why not just skip this step? Simple: the more friendly you get, the more of a connection you’ll have with a woman and the more comfortable she’ll feel around you. The kinds of physical contact I just described create a stronger bond than you’d think.

Step 3) Get Dominant

 

This domain is owned by the gentlemen because whether you realize it or not, they’re being dominant and taking the lead when showing manners. Say a guy opens the door for a woman and stretches out his arm: “ladies first” he says. What he’s actually doing is telling her to go in, he’s LEADING her in and that means dominance my friend.

Dominance is attractive… and the more you do the following, the easier and faster you can get facial and get sexual. Basically, if you do this part right? You won’t have to take 1 step back. Here’s the list:

- Going somewhere with her? Then grab her hand and lead her there. Not just when you’re walking on the street dude, no I’m talking about always doing it. In a club on the dancefloor and want to sit down with her? Grab her hand… or at the bar and wanna go outside with her? Grab her hand. Always do it. PERIOD.
- Holding her hand? Squeeze it a little and if she squeezes back? She likes you. It’s as simple as that.
- Going in or leaving a venue? Hold the door open for her and tell her that ladies go first.
- Driving a car? Hold the door open for her before you yourself get in.
- Going in a venue and wearing a coat or jacket? Help her take of her coat. Put it back on when leaving.
- Going to sit down? Pull out her chair for her.
- Rain or hail? Keep her dry by holding the umbrella for her, holding a newspaper or even your coat above her head.
- Crossing the street? Gently guide her by letting your hand rest on her lower back
- Walking up (or down) some stairs, moving from street to sidewalk and so on? Hold out your hand and help her get up or down.
- Don’t forget this important one: when sitting down, make her sit on your lap.

Being this dominant is attractive, plus women will be charmed by your gentleman behavior but here’s a juicy secret: you can mix it up by teasing women with all of this. Pull out her chair and then pull it out even further when she’s sitting down so she almost falls, pretend to drop her coat when you put in on her, etc. Playful teasing is attractive as well so go right ahead and do it.

So go 2 steps forward and 1 back again: be a gentleman 2 times, and trick her the third time. It has never failed me yet!

Step 4) Get Facial

 

This is the area that separates the close friends from the lovers. Getting facial isn’t something out of a spa or porn flick, it has to do with touching her head, her face especially. Just look around next time you’re in public and see the difference between lovers and friends: lovers touch each others faces, friends hardly ever do that.

Remember me telling you how men suck at recognizing when a woman’s interested? Well, this step requires you to gauge whether she’s interested or not. Most men think they need to know all kinds of signals of interest, but in reality?

If she has been playing along with all of these steps so far, especially with getting dominant, she’s interested in you 9 out of 10 times so stop being unsure about her interest, be a man, and take action on it. Don’t overthink it.

Same goes for kissing her. Why overthink it? If you’re on a date, things are going well, and you just completed step 3, then why not stop her in the middle of the street, let her face you and go for that kiss?

It’s the type of dominant behavior women CRAVE. They’ve been reading about it for ages in those sleazy romance novels man… about a guy who takes what he wants when he wants it. So start doing that.

And if you’re really, really unsure? There’s 2 ways of testing if she’s ready to be kissed:

1) If she’s talking, do the Triangle. First look at her left eye a couple seconds, then her right eye, then her lips and repeat the process. You literally make a triangle with your eyes, and if she stops talking when you do that? Then the sexual tension made her stop talking and you can kiss her. 99% of the women stop talking…

2) When talking, touch her hair or one of her cheeks and gently stroke it (make a compliment about it when you think you need an excuse). If she’s fine with it? I think you know more than enough…

In my view, even kissing can be escalated. You start with a good long kiss, but “tongue raping” someone is way more intimate than kissing so first kiss romantically, then go for the tongue rape after that.

One of the most sensitive spots for any woman is her neck, so make sure you’re a little devil who “accidentally” kissed her in the neck a couple times. Oops you aimed wrong, whatever.

The moment you’ll turn her on big time is when you go from kissing to tongue to her neck, and then suddenly take a step back by offering a massage. You guessed it: it’s 2 steps forward and 1 step back!

Step 5) Get Sexual

 

All women LOVE men who are dominant in bed so again being a man who’s the dominant action taker works here. Sometimes ripping off her clothes is enough once you two are in the bedroom. I’m not kidding.

If she resists and/or doesn’t start to undress you, it’s better to lead into getting sexual. My perfect way of doing that is a massage, but screw shoulder massages here. I never do those. Simply offer her to massage her back with some oil. Why?

First off, oil is erotic in the bedroom. Secondly, if you’re gonna massage her back she has to take of her shirt so she’ll start to get used to taking of her clothes. Then it’s just you, her back and her bra. If she likes it, you can even make her take of her pants by offering to massage her legs with oil too.

And oh yeah… did I mention massages (when done well) turn a woman on like CRAZY?

From there it’s simply offering a full body massage: make her turn around, kiss her when she does, take of her bra and the rest is history…

Why make things hard for yourself by trying to get her to lay down when you kiss her as she’s sitting in a chair, when you can get her to lay down herself for your massage?

These are the basics of getting physical with women and I hope you discovered a couple gems there. Stay tuned as I’ll discuss body language in more detail very soon. Meanwhile, tell me… what’s your opinion on getting physical with women?

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women

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Hi it’s Dennis Miedema from Win With Women here and I’d like to share a story with you…

This is the story of why men completely forget their body when they’re approaching women…

When I first started learning how to meet and date women, I befriended one of the best naturals I’ve seen in my life. In case you don’t know what a natural is: it’s someone who’s good at seducing someone of the opposite sex by nature, since birth or so to speak.

Giant, that’s what everybody calls him because he literally IS a giant and a professional basketball player, and me approached women on a daily basis. We were still in high school back then and a special one too: one for people that weren’t able to get their diploma on a regular high school, so a school for drop outs if you will.

We approached women in the bus to school, while waiting at the bus stop, at school, and everywhere in between. We were pretty lucky with the route the bus took: it always drove through the neighborhoods with lots of foreign women. Black haired, tanned beauties from the Middle East, Asia and what not.

Need I say more? I absolutely love foreign women. Maybe it’s because I’m a language buff, or maybe I just like the x factor those women have because they’re foreign…

Anyways, Giant always used to beat me with his approaches. He approached more women, got more numbers, and I got so frustrated with losing that after a while I decided to NOT approach at all and stalk the guy to see what his secret was.

I quickly found out: when I saw a woman I wanted to meet, I did my absolute best to come up with something witty to say. I usually thought so hard and for so long that the girl was already gone when I had something to say.

That was my way of doing things back then: over thinking it, over analyzing it… and it wasn’t a very successful way let me tell you that. But I was used to it: in our Western society, what’s the thing you use most for almost everything? Your brain, not your body.

Meanwhile, Giant’s style was COMPLETELY different: instead of trying to get words, he would try to be seen.

He would wink, wave, or smile at a girl at just the right time… and when she would smile back? He knew she was interested and he would approach.

We’re so much dependent on our thinking brain these days that we almost entirely ignore what the rest of the body can do for us, while it has many advantages to let our body do most of the approaching:

1) The vast majority (around 80-93%) of our communication is done with our bodies: body language. That means that if you “approach” a woman with your body, it’s much stronger communication than when you do it with words. It has much more impact.

2) If you use your body to show interest and a woman picks up on it and shows interest through a smile or repeating what you did, then it’s no longer a cold approach where you step up to a woman and hope for the best. It’s a situation where you already know she’s interested (or not), so all you’ll have to do is cash in on that.

Do you realize what that means?

It means that if you learn physical openers, you’ll be doing warm approaches where you know interest is already there and your chances to get a number or a date are much higher… instead of cold approaches where you can only hope for the best.

Would that fact alone make you more successful?

Duhhh.

After I learned this CRUCIAL lesson from Giant, approaching women was never the same again for me. It all became way, wayyyy easier. He’s still one of my best friends to this day and, as you can already tell by now, for a good reason!

I think it’s time to get down to business and see some physical openers in action, wouldn’t you agree?

Physical Opener #1: The Smile

This one’s simple: when a woman looks your way, you smile. If she smiles back, you’ve got your signal of interest right there and you know she’s interested in talking to you. This one works with close encounters inside venues: in clubs, bars, at work, at college, etc. or when she’s not that far away from you.

The further away she is, the harder it is to see you smile so it doesn’t work as well when she’s on the other side of the room or street.

Physical Opener #2: The Wink

Have you noticed how people hardly wink anymore? The only ones that I still see doing it are old people. Winking works the same as smiling: works well for short distances, inside venues and so on. Same conclusion too: if she smiles back, it’s game on!

Keep in mind that a woman doesn’t have to smile per se, because any reaction is a good one. If she totally ignores the signal? She’s NOT interested, but when she smiles back, giggles, looks away (obvious sign of her getting shy), and whatever she’s interested. Fun fact: they almost always respond in a positive way!

Physical Opener #3: The Wave

This is where things become awesome. Winking and smiling works for close range “targets” but not so well with longer range targets because it’s hard for them to actually see it and that’s a problem. In comes waving at women.

It’s VERY hard for a person NOT to see you wave at them from a distance. Whether she’s on the other end of the street or the room, whether she’s walking on a different floor of the shopping mall than you are. Whatever. If she looks your way? You can bet your ass that she’ll notice it and again: any reaction except ignoring it is showing interest, smiling especially… and if a woman waves back? Then she’s definitely interested.

Physical Opener #4: The Situation

Let me repeat what I said earlier on: 80-93% of our communication is body language and there are so many situations that allows you to take advantage of it. Key insight here: something happens to something or someone else, and now you and her have something in common. That’s all it takes to start a conversation: having something in common, because it creates the start of a connection, of a bond. If that sounds vague, here are some examples:

- Someone trips… you laugh and shake your head as to say “silly you” and if she smiles because of it, it’s more than enough to start a conversation. Hint: you won’t believe how many people silently start grinning the moment you do this!

- You’re waiting for the bus, boat, train, subway, plane whatever and as soon as it’s late… you have something in common. All you have to do is show your disapproval. Quite often it’s enough to get that interested reaction because you showed what everyone else (including her) was thinking. Lots of times people have spontaneous conversations because of public transportation being late.

- If it’s really busy in a venue and you almost have to use your elbows to move from point A to point B inside that club, you won’t be the only one that’s unhappy with it. If you make eye contact with a woman while moving then again, all it takes is a smile and shaking your head and she’ll immediately get what you’re trying to say.

And the list goes on and on. Key insight here is to remember that you have more in common with more people than you’d think. The cause is a situation that pops up and if you react on it with your body, it’s usually enough to start a conversation. Try it and you’ll see.

These are just some of the techniques I discovered, but instead of sharing them all I’d much rather tell you about the TIMING of physical openers.

The Timing of Physical Openers

Another important thing I learned from Giant is this: approaching women isn’t a one-time thing. Usually, you approach women in the same area. Whether it’s a favorite street or part of town, or at a place you regularly visit (like your company, college, supermarket, club etc.) it doesn’t matter. The point is: you come there several times, so it’s likely that you’ll see women there that you saw there before… and that’s awesome!

You see, some women are there with their mothers, fathers or with other family (like an aunt or something) that makes them less approachable than others. Some are with their boyfriend or husband, some are talking on the phone… and the list goes on and on.

Lots of guys ask me how to approach women in these situations and I always answer with: start seeing approaching as a recurring thing because you usually do it in the exact same place as you did before. So go in there, display your body language, and if they show a signal of interest?

Remember it… and then approach that woman the nex time you see her when she IS available. Chances are that you’ll see more than half the women you encounter when you repeatedly go somewhere.

Do you realize what this means?

It means that even if a woman has a man, was with her father or whatever, you can still approach her next time if she was interested… and since most men SUCK at reading body language? The guy she’s with will probably not even notice that she showed her interest with a subtle smile…

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women

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