4 Killer Ways to Stop Being Spineless Around Women
#3: Get Busy Living – With or Without Her
You know the problem with saying “yes” all the time to women?
It gives them the impression that you’re willing to fall off the face of the Earth just to please them.
Women may think that this is what they want in a man, but trying to fit into this “ideal guy” mold doesn’t do anything for them, attraction-wise.
Instead, be a man and keep living your life in a way that works for you – even if she’s in the picture. If you have something important coming up, don’t be afraid to tell her.
It’s actually healthy to let her know that you have other stuff going on aside from her (in a gentle, subtle way of course). It wouldn’t hurt for her to think from time to time, “What could be more important to him than going to the flea market with me and picking out homemade earrings?”
If you keep dropping your plans at the drop of a hat to look like the “perfect guy”, you’ll be operating from a place of insecurity – and spinelessness.
In the end, she’ll inexplicably find herself less and less attracted to you, even though you think you were just trying to please her.
#4: Don’t Rely on Her to Boost Your Ego
So naturally, you’ll want to keep doing the things that make you an interesting guy even if you can’t stop thinking about her.
Most men underestimate the importance of having that crazy, wild-eyed zeal for life. They don’t realize that if they stop pursuing the things they care about, it will carry over to their dating life.
Think about it: you know that one friend that all men have, the one who runs himself ragged trying to please his girl and having NO TIME whatsoever for himself?
(And incidentally, it also explains is why he never hangs out with you anymore and flakes out at the last minute.)
He used to be this funny, spirited guy to hang out with. But now he’s like that lion with the glazed look in his eyes from being at the zoo for too long.
Don’t be like him. Don’t limit your reality to meeting and attracting women.
It’s ok to want a woman in your life, but balance your need for companionship with a little perspective.
This is why a “nice guy” can never make headway with women – he’s hoping for that special girl who’s going to “complete” or “fix” him.
NEWS FLASH: That’s not what women are for. You need to do that for yourself!
If you act like that around a girl, she’ll sense the neediness and find every possible way to disentangle herself from your “friendship tactics”.
The solution? Cultivate a genuine enthusiasm for accomplishing things OUTSIDE of dating.
Pretty soon, you’ll find yourself naturally at ease with women. That’s because your life won’t fall apart when she doesn’t return your calls or reassure you what a great guy you are.
Remember, your identity and self-worth should never depend on a woman’s approval – it comes from WITHIN.
If you’ve been doing all of these, but still feel that there’s something “lacking”, you probably haven’t harnessed your Alpha Sexual Power yet.
It’s one of the most effective ways to effortlessly generate attraction in women that a lot of men don’t know about.
Stay Alpha…
– Carlos Xuma
