Take Off Your “Doom and Gloom Goggles”

You know how there’s always that one guy in the movie that keeps bringing down the rest of the group with his negative vibe?

He’s the guy who keeps saying stuff like “we’re all gonna die” and “game over man!”

Instead of actually doing something about the situation (e.g. finding a nearby weapon, planning an escape route), this dude spends way too much time cursing his luck.

At one time or another, we’ve been put upon life in some way. However, there are always two options, which is: a) act like a victim, or b) take action instead.

Again, this doesn’t have much to do with dating itself, but making the right choice (read: option b) will consequently boost your success with women.

Think of it this way: if you were a chick, would you want to hang out with the guy who keeps treating every little hitch as the end of the world?

Or would you rather go out with someone who’s more focused on having a great time and making you feel good?

If you don’t feel confident enough to deal with life’s little curveballs, what kind of impression would you make on her?

Here’s a challenge you can try on for size today: instead of seeing the worst possible outcome in a stressful situation, think of the things you can do turn it around.

It’s better to distract yourself by focusing on damage control; that way, there won’t be any room for despair or other negative thoughts.

Let’s say you were stuck in line at the ATM machine, and you didn’t have any choice but to wait your turn. Would you rather focus your thoughts on how long you had to wait?

Or maybe, you’re better off diverting your mind towards productive thoughts such as:

• Plan the rest of your day
• Think about what you’ll do this weekend
• Play a game on your phone
• Put on your headphones and listen to music

You can apply this kind of thinking to other situations. So being a responsible guy means taking responsibility for your emotions, i.e. not acting like a victim of your circumstances.

When you’re in control of how you react to a situation, you’ll appear more mature to the people around you – that goes for hot women too.

And that’s really what Alpha behavior is all about: being in control of your life AND your emotions. Once you’ve got that down, you’ll pretty much draw women into your orbit without trying too hard.

Speaking of staying Alpha, I strongly recommend you check out my new course that will teach you how to keep your testosterone even as you get older. Some guys aren’t so lucky and lose theirs over time.

To stay on top of your game —> CLICK HERE to find out how to up your Inner Game.

Stay Alpha…

– Carlos Xuma