Going on a date might seem like the scariest part of the seduction game, but in reality it’s the opposite – provided you know what to do.

I’m going to cover the essential points of the date, and give you dozens of dating advice tips and strategies you can use. Once you have a solid game in place, your dates will practically run on auto-pilot.

Keep in mind that dating and attracting a woman is easy when you have a plan to follow, and these strategies can form the framework of your success.

TIMING IS EVERYTHING

Don’t set up a date around lunch hours as much as possible. In fact, first dates should be AFTER 6-7 PM – anything earlier than that could land you in the Friend Zone.

It simply takes more work to create a romantic atmosphere before sundown. Plus, night dates create a better opportunity for her to crash at your place (and all that implies).

The women you’re after (i.e. high value ladies) probably have a full schedule towards the end of the week. Since most of us hate Mondays and the back-to-the-grind stress that it creates, avoid this day as well.

That said, you’ll have to set up a date when she won’t be crazy busy and have a hundred things on her mind. So women who are generally on a “regular” schedule prefer Sunday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday over the other days of the week.

As for Saturday, I refer to that as “sacred date day.”

This is the day that every guy knows is the most significant night to go out with a woman. It says “I’m courting you” and “This could be serious.”

It also indicates that you’ve got no other women (probably) in your life. So remember that the day you choose also sends a message.

And it’s one she will hear loud and clear.

When I list Friday and Saturday last, it’s because they’re for a SPECIAL girl, not just any girl. You should make those your days of last resort.

Ideally, if you’re not in a long-term relationship, these are the nights you’re going out to meet new women.

The ideal date should be a 3-hour block consisting of several locations. Hopping from place to place gives you more stuff to do and keeps things fresh.

So that means you need to kick it off between 7PM to 9PM to allow enough time to fit everything into your date without losing momentum. It’s important to remember that this approach is meant to make her relaxed by the time she’s supposed to cut loose with you.

The other reason why daytime dates don’t really feel like dates is because she’ll be worn out by the time she heads back to her place. (Not the way to end things).

You need to build your timetable in a way that ends the night on a high note. Remember the first rule of showbiz: “Always leave them wanting more.”

If your date hits that high note (i.e. when her energy levels are the highest) around 10-11 PM, you’re golden. You’ll be wrapping up things by that time, but she’ll feel sad that the night is ending.

And that’s EXACTLY what you want her to feel: the pain of your absence.

WHAT NOT TO DO ON THE FIRST DATE

Skip movie night if you’re dating someone new. You can watch movies together at home on your 4th or 5th steady date after you’ve started sleeping together, but NOT before then.

For the first date, sitting in front of a screen for a couple of hours is the worst way to go. There’s no interaction whatsoever, which means you’ll learn nothing about her during that time.

And forget about physical contact – any touching at the movies will just make it weird.

That being said, if things start to suck for you and you don’t want to just end the date, go catch a movie you’ve been dying to see. Turn the night into something cool instead of being miserable.

Another DON’T: Dinner dates.

They’re unoriginal and lack creative imagination. Like a movie date, there’s practically zero chance of touching her without making it awkward.

Here’s another factor to consider – she probably won’t feel at ease having to put food in her mouth or sharing her food preferences with a practical stranger.

Besides, you’ll want to sidestep the typical “dance” when the bill comes. (Which, if you’re forced into this situation, YOU pay. Sorry, man.)

WHERE TO GO:

Any place that naturally encourages a lot of interaction and physical contact between you two should be on your list. It’s even better if the venue serves cocktails, beer, wine and the like.

So you should take her to dance classes, stand-up comedy bars, art shows, funky shopping venues where you can walk around and buy quirky stuff, music-related festivals, and so on.

Logistics are crucial, too. You’ll want to find places and activities that are close to either her place or yours.

These days, it’s easy to use Google or any number of location-based searches to research a good venue.

You should have about 4 options to pick from that are a short (5-10 minute) drive from her place. You should have about 5 or more in your local area.

The best options are walking distance, of course. But not everyone has the ease and simplicity of living in San Francisco or other major cities where everything is this close.

Once you’ve got a few, you’ll want to plan how to string them together.

Remember what I said about the 3-hour block. Ideally, fitting in three different activities would be perfect.

That gives you an hour to dedicate to each activity, and that keeps the date from getting stale.

One of the interesting things that bonds humans together is the amount of shared experience we have. People who have been through a lot together have a very tight bond – tighter than initial chemistry, in fact.

So by having a few “mini-dates” together, you’ll also be creating that intimacy with her.

To create a good date, you’ll want to be active and doing a lot of things. Don’t make it a mad rush from one to the next, but keep her moving.

Grabbing a couple drinks, heading over to the bowling ally or pool hall, and then some dancing. That right there is a map for excitement for her.

The way we perceive time is relative, and you can use this to your advantage. Compressing positive experiences into your 3-hour block will make her feel like she’s done so much with you.

The basic idea here is to create lot of good memories – and the emotions that come with them – in a single date.

Here are some more examples of great first date dates:

– Get some Gelato

– Grab some coffee

– Go check out that weird-looking art sculpture sitting outside the office downtown

– Swing or Salsa class (OR Hip-Hop, Zumba and whatever else you’re comfortable with)

– Comedy improv class (just make sure she’s a relaxed, cool chick first who seems up for it)

– One of those interactive “escape the room” or “murder mystery” venues where you search for clues with her and put your heads together

– Dancing at a small club

– Finish up with drinks at your apartment next door

Yes, it’s a good idea to finish the activities near your place or hers so it can “conveniently” end there.

HOW TO BEHAVE ON THE DATE:

You should be interacting with your date throughout the date. That means doing stuff you both participate in and neither one of you can hang back and get lazy.

You’ll want to be able to walk around and have many opportunities to touch.

As this is your place to shine, you’ll need to take the role of leader during the date. She has to know you’re a take-charge kind of guy.

Don’t act like you need her approval, and you should definitely never ask her what she’d like to do. You already have that plan.

Women sleep with guys who have a plan to do just that. She wants to be swept away.

By the way, beware the women who struggle for control, or get overly competitive on dates. These are NOT women you want to be with.

A woman should have a soft feminine presence that goes with the energy, not struggles for dominance.

If she can’t let you lead, you’ll never get where you want to go. Don’t wind up being her bitch.

Don’t fall for the feminist propaganda that would have you believing anything else.

The interaction should go along the lines of:

“There’s this cool new place that has shawarmas everyone’s raving about, let’s check it out…”

OR

“Hey, let’s check out that video arcade. I haven’t played in ages, but I bet I can still beat you at pinball!”

OR

“Let’s check out the Exploratorium, they have a trippy exhibit on how to grow plants on Mars…”

You get the idea…

WHAT TO TALK ABOUT ON THE FIRST DATE:

You want your conversation with her to move quickly out of small talk and into deep and personal territory. Dig in and find out about her life on a very real level.

Ask her about what’s important to her, what are her values? Find out about her dreams, what she’s passionate about, her past and outlook on the future, and what things she enjoys most in life.

Keep the subject away from things that are dark or negative in any way, and make sure you don’t let her dwell in that zone if she gets suddenly melancholy. Remember, you’re the leader, and you’re also the guy who takes her away from negative emotions.

Women often can’t do this themselves, so you must be there to help her turn her mood into something productive for the date.

You’ll want to avoid having the first date – or any date, really – turn into a kind of interrogation with question after question.

Instead, you can bring the information out of her by talking about your own story and passions first, then encourage her to share. Lead by example.

IS SHE INTO YOU?

Here are a few tips for you to gauge a woman’s level of interest during the date. You should be looking for some hints that things are working in a positive direction.

Overall, you can generally trust your gut. If it feels like she’s having fun and into the date, she is.

If you’re struggling to figure out if she’s interested, you have to act as though she isn’t and step up your game.

Signs To Watch Out For:

– Sometimes you’ll notice her smiling and laughing a lot more than she really needs to. That’s a good indication she’s feeling attracted and dropping hints for your benefit.

– Is she fidgeting with her hair or doing the “hair flip”? That’s positive body language right there.

– She’s in your “personal bubble.” If a woman likes you, she’ll keep closer to you physically to raise the level of attraction. She’s also doing this to subconsciously make you touch her without spelling it out for you.

– When she gives you that “look”: This is closely related to smiling and laughing. If you find her locking eyes with you, long enough to almost make you want to look away, chances are she’s feeling attraction. This is especially true if she looks at you when neither of you are talking.

– She acts like you’re the only guy in the room. This can be very subtle, and subjective as well. You’re looking for behaviors which show that you have her full attention. For instance, if you’re at a bar and her girlfriends can’t pry her away from you, that’s a good sign.

If a girl isn’t into you, she’ll fall into her familiar patterns of interaction with her friends, because that’s the path of least resistance. So, you know you’re doing well if she acts like they don’t exist.

I’ve given you a basic structure for your first date – or first dates – with a woman.

You want to stick to this plan as much as possible, and the reason is simple: If you need to tweak the plan at all, you have to have a baseline plan to work from.

Otherwise, you’ll be all over the place with your results and won’t know where the problem is.

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