She obviously wanted to go to the aquarium and hang out with me. So I created a false barrier.

The result: her desire to go to the aquarium and hang out with me burgeoned like a malignant tumor on a mission to take over a hapless person’s body.

But there’s a more subtle and powerful aspect to creating false barriers…

I discovered it at age six while driving to Palm Springs with my grandparents. From the backseat vantage point I witnessed my gluttonous grandma reach her hand into a box of See’s Candy, grab hold of a piece of chocolate, stuff it into her mouth, and move her jaw around and around like a cow chewing on its cud. After repeating the process ad nauseum, she asked me if I’d like a piece and I said, “No thank you.” (Chocolate has never been my thing.)

She responded with, “Good… because I wasn’t gonna give you any.” All of the sudden I wanted a piece of chocolate. Her taking that option of having a piece away from me made the chocolate desirable. The moral of the story: you can start with something a person has no interest in, create a barrier from her getting it, and – viola – she’ll DESIRE it.

The most powerful application of this principle is when you use a barrier to turn yourself into the object of a woman’s desire. More times than I can count, I’ve used this to transform myself in a matter of seconds from the bane of a woman’s nightclub experience into her knight and shining armor.

Here’s why…

Women like to think of themselves as attractive and desirable. For most women to maintain this self-image they need validation from men. In other words, even if they aren’t attracted to you, they want you to want them.

That’s why droves of happily married women go out on the town with their girlfriends and revel in men hitting on them – it validates that they’re still desirable.

I remember the first time I used this. A friend and I were at a small pub on Saint Patrick’s Day. As we were chatting with a girl, I noticed two ice-princesses roll their eyes at us. Then the blonde one said to the other, “Why is Suzy talking to those ugly losers?” (No ifs, ands, or buts about it, she was referring to us.)

Next, the blonde marched over to us and gave her friend the directive, “Let’s go. We need to leave.” I looked her directly in the eyes and delivered a cool and collected, “You’re very pretty.”

She hissed, “You’re a real charmer,” and tried to frown. But her frown was struggling against the pull of her rising cheeks and narrowing eyes. Her forced I’m-a-bitch facade was giving way to a genuine smile that said loud and clear, “I’m so happy you think I’m desirable.”

Then I continued with, “But too bad you’re a bottle blonde. Bottle blondes aren’t my type. I like my girls natural.” Her genuine smile gave way to a genuine frown. Then she started grinding against me and said, “You know I’m hot. You know I turn you on.” I leaned back against the bar and said, “You are hot. You just don’t sexually do anything for me.”

She quarreled, “No guy in his right mind would turn me down. You must be gay.”

So I gave her a sarcastic, “If that would make you feel better about yourself, you can think I’m gay.”

She protested, “No you’re not and you want me,” and then planted her lippers on mine.

To spare you the needless details, we played tonsil hockey for the rest of the night.

Although she found me less appealing than the whiff of ass and foot combined, I became the object of her sexual desire by creating a barrier.

The bedrock for applying the three essential features of flirting is using a powerful seduction technology called “Push-Pull.” Push-Pull is the art of emotionally Pushing a woman away from you and then emotionally Pulling her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull.

To get a sense of where I’m going with all this, think, for example, of your favorite junk food. Imagine going on a strict diet for several weeks that prohibits you from eating your favorite food.

What would it feel like to finally give in to your urge and indulge after weeks of dieting?

I’m willing to bet it would taste a thousand times yummier after dieting than before. Push-Pull is the fastest way to spark sexual tension.

Each time you push her away, it sparks tension… and each time you pull her in, it releases that tension. The process of sparking and then releasing tension in a woman creates attraction.

It’s the “secret” sauce that makes a woman WANT you, as opposed to just treating you as a friend.

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That’s all for now… hope you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoyed sharing it… peace!