How To Make Her Want You
Women are like a computer that you have to hack into so you can get her to feel attracted to you. And if I had mad hacking skills, this wouldn’t seem so hard.
But girls aren’t computers, last I checked.
So we have to figure out how to “hack” her system another way to make her like you and want you.
I’m going to share 5 ways to get her to want you using simple tricks of psychology. The best part is that they work on a subconscious level that she won’t even register.
The first one is:
How to make her desire you with body language: Exaggerate your shoulders
One of the interesting things I see in guys I coach is that almost every guy who has a tough time with confidence inhibits or constrains his body language. Almost as if he’s smothering his self-expression.
The easiest way to overcome this is to consciously take control of your body language for a while until you break this habit. Chances are you’re being far too restricted with your movements.
One of the best ways to communicate confidence with your body is through exaggerating your shoulder movements as you walk.
Don’t go overboard like you’re about to break into a song and dance routine from “West Side Story.” Just let your shoulders move a little more freely.
Your shoulders communicate your focus of attention, so use them when you’re talking to her, too.
When you want her to feel heard and focused on, face her with your shoulders.
When it’s time to take away a little attention, look away with your eyes and shoulders as well.
It seems kind of small and insignificant, but it will make a huge difference in how she responds to you.
The second tip is…
Get her to want you by slowing down and being more fluid…
This is another body language tip. Again, most guys are far too nervous and jerky with their bodies.
They come across like nervous birds.
And girls are very responsive to your mood as they sense it from your body movement.
So when you talk to her, make sure you’re moving as if you’re underwater. Very slow and fluid motions of the body that feel almost graceful.
Focus on your head, eyes, and hands as they are about 90% of your expression when you’re talking to her. Of course, avoid talking fast.
Even go so far as to slow down your breathing, blinking, and your laughter.
At first this will feel almost cartoonish and exaggerated, but that’s only because you’ve become used to moving so quickly all the time. Just relax and fall into a slower groove.
If you catch yourself speeding up again with your speech or movement, just tell yourself to relax, and bring it back down to a more grounded movement.
The third tip is…
Make her like you with your attitude: Tease to Please
By now most guys have heard of my strategy of teasing girls. Some guys call it “cocky and funny.”
It boils down to the same thing: Girls respond to verbal challenges.
So let me give you a quick example:
– You’re on a date and she fumbles her water a little
You say: “Careful… I might have to cut you off from the hard stuff.”
OR: “Should I get you a sippy cup, or are you going to be okay?”
The key is to smirk a little when you deliver that.
And until you’ve got a good feel for how much is TOO much, I suggest you use my words. Those are field tested and approved.
Another way to tease a woman is to let her express her taste in something like music, movies, art, whatever – and then act like you disapprove.
I do this by covering my forehead with my hand and shaking my head.
Then I say: “Oh, man. You were doing so well up until now. Look, I’ll let you have a do-over. I’ll pretend that didn’t happen.”
The reason that teasing works so well with women is that it triggers something inside her that makes her feel as if the connection has been shaken up.
A woman’s natural instinct is to never jeopardize the connection between her and anyone else. So she’ll backpedal and try to make a save.
You’ll be tempted to hold back and play it cool early on, but that’s a big mistake. You need to risk a little early on or she’s going to think you’re dull.
Let me be clear here: This isn’t manipulation or insulting her to make her feel inadequate. This is playful energetic conversation.
Anything else is a waste of both your time.
The fourth sneaky way to get into her heart and trigger her feelings:
Make her like you by taking her to eat spicy food…
This one is a secret weapon in my arsenal.
Spicy food is a way to do three important things:
First, it increases blood flow. It gives her a rush of heat and she’ll associate this feeling with you.
Next – it sparks a little feeling of danger in her. It will spike her adrenaline bit, enhancing that rush she’s feeling.
And finally – spicy food breaks down the social front women put on. She’s going to sniffle a bit, maybe even tear up.
And that’s going to get her a little more REAL with you.
If you can’t get past her pretense and nice girl act, you’re going to have a tough time getting her into bed.
Scratch that… you probably WON’T get her into bed if you can’t get her real with you. Period.
So use a nice spicy Mexican or Thai meal to break down the barriers.
Now, the last secret method for making her want you and crave you:
Make her like you by using texts to sneak into her mind…
I used to hate texting. I never wanted to send a text when it was just as easy to call her up and talk to her.
But then I realized that most women don’t answer their phones, so you have to go through her texts to get into her life.
And now you can use texting for almost every part of dating, from meeting her to getting her to sext you some hot photos, to showing up at your door late at night…
Here’s why texting women works so well:
First of all, texting engages a woman’s mind through her imagination.
She has to invent her own image of you to go along with the words. Which means that you can be naughty and playful without any risk of backlash.
And especially if you’re a shy guy.
Second, you can take your time to think up a reply.
It’s like a conversation machine where you don’t have to be “ON” all the time. You can read what she sends you, and then take your sweet time to send her a reply.
And the longer you take, the more she’ll be interested.
You can even keep a library of great texts like the ones I teach ready on your phone at a moment’s notice.
And finally, the best reason to text women into attraction is to make sure she’s thinking about you all the time.
You can’t be there all day long, and you can’t even control how often she checks her email, but you can send a text at key times of the day and plant yourself firmly in her mind whenever you want.
There is only one thing holding most guys back…
And that’s knowing what to say to get her to want you – and get her to TEXT YOU BACK.
Did you know that girls get HUNDREDS of text messages every week?
You have to be able to cut through all that NOISE to get her attention… The fact is that most guys simply wind up getting ignored, or simply forgotten and lost.
That’s why I created a guaranteed way to get through her digital bouncer: Her cell phone.
I spent about ten months testing out text messages to see what worked and what didn’t – and I pulled them together for you.
I call these “Black Ops” texts – and they are guaranteed to make her text you back.
You can go watch my free video e-class by clicking below:
3 Foolproof Messages That Make Her Text You Back… <==
It’s about 10 minutes of training that will give you the texts you need to get her to want you.
Go watch it now, because I’m moving this video to a paid members area in a few days…
Get the girl you want…
– Carlos Xuma