If you need ideas, just browse through Yahoo’s news section, Huffington Post or Buzzfeed. Or you can read thought-provoking books that’s had a positive effect on your life, like Sun Tzu’s Art of War (remember what we said about actual war; use this as an analogy for succeeding in life) or Freakonomics if you’re into the global economy.

Then, the trick is to break down these general subjects into smaller topics. By switching back and forth between your sub-topics, the conversation will never go stale and you’ll avoid those awkward silences. And when you’re always peaking her interest, it makes you one interesting dude.

Topics to Spark Attratcion

Aside from generating interest, you’ll also have to engage her on an emotional level. Once she’s emotionally invested in the conversation, her attraction switches will naturally flip on their own.

Luckily, you don’t have to go the cheesy route. Instead of droning on and on about how great she looks or how pretty the stars are tonight (both lame and unoriginal), there are more subtle ways to trigger her emotions.

The simplest and most effective way is to add feelings when you’re telling her about some funny, weird or scary experience that you lived through. Most guys are used to talking from a non-emotional perspective, like how you’d chat with your buddies.

Women however, don’t respond to plain facts. Describe the events in terms of what you felt at the time to convey those powerful emotions:

“So there I was, dazed and confused in Japan on a business trip, and it was literally my first 48 hours in this scary new country I’ve never been to. Then this disturbed guy out of nowhere starts talking into the busted payphone beside me. Our eyes locked for a few seconds that felt like hours. As paralyzed as I was, I hopped on my bike and got the heck out of there. Talk about surreal.”

A few well-placed anecdotes can get a woman riled up without even her knowing it. Learn to push this button a few times, and you’ve got her locked in.

To put romantic ideas in her head, talk about other people’s romantic experiences, or something you watched, like a movie or TV show involving relationships.

Bring it up casually, provide emotional details and make a quick comment about it. The point of this is to ask her opinion on what you just talked about. For instance, maybe your buddy told you about the time he saw a chick flick with his girlfriend. You can bring it up with your date in a funny way:

“A friend of mine was dragged by his girlfriend to see one of those cheesy romantic movies, but he said it wasn’t as bad as he thought. According to him, everyone in the story lived happily ever after, and the ending gave him ‘The Tingles,’ whatever that means. I told him I was revoking his Man Card for saying that, haha! But anyway, his girl was happy at the end of the date, too. I guess when you’re in a relationship, you do stuff for your partner even if you aren’t nuts about it. What do you think a guy should do to keep his girl happy?”

So now you’ve put her on the spot, but in a gentle way by adding a little pretext first.

The benefit is that it not only gets her emotional and talking about romance, but also gives you an idea of what kind of girl she is (like we mentioned, a little intel never hurt a guy).

And if she puts you on the spot after putting in her two cents, have a reply ready.

If she asks, “How would YOU keep a girl happy?” say something like, “Well, I’d make sure she knows that she’s basically hijacked my brain, you know? Like, I’d send her a few random texts or emails when we’re not together, or maybe go out of my way to get her something she likes, like her favorite wine or ice cream.”

Conversational Cyanide: Things NEVER to Say

First, if you sound like you’re trying too hard to impress her, you’ll lower your value instead of raising it. Avoid talking too much about how kick-ass your job is, the amount of money you make, the car you drive, or your costly, overseas vacations.

Subtlety is the key – imply your social value, don’t hit her over the head with it.

You’re more likely to do that by following my conversation tips above than by bragging.

As far as ex-girlfriends are concerned, stand your ground (in a direct but classy kind of way) when she probes for information. Stick to general answers like, “Yeah, we just wanted different things really, but I’m glad she found someone else.”

While you’re at it, never get into the how’s and why’s of your breakup, and especially don’t trash your ex.  You don’t want to come off as some bitter dude moaning about his previous relationships – or creepy by talking about the stuff you did with your ex before.

Remember, leave a little room for mystery. Trust me, it’s what draws women in.

Here are other gems you should avoid like the plague:

• “You listen to Nicki Minaj? That’s so lame, I lost a few IQ points when I heard her on the radio, haha!” Don’t ever insult her on a personal level, like the stuff she likes.
• “If you get out of line, I might just have to smack ya.” Even if she’s a judo instructor or into MMA, jokes about violence are always a huge red flag. Try some humorous verbal sparring instead.
• “Ok, so you should order this…” It’s not so much about being confident as it is about being considerate of her preferences (an important quality for her). Suggest, but don’t impose so you can rule out any allergies or dietary restrictions.

What all of this boils down to is that impressing your girl means preparing for the date.  Sure, some say romance should be spontaneous, which is true – but only to a certain point.

Even though you should think on your feet when an unexpected curveball comes around, you still need a basic game plan in place. Much of that has to do with communicating with your date in the most attractive way possible.

Stay Alpha…

– Carlos Xuma