She’s Already Looking for Your Replacement
A relationship is not an appliance you can put on “set it and forget it” and expect it work flawlessly. Complacence is the biggest mistake a guy can make in dating, and there’s some disturbing new evidence of the consequences.
In a recent survey, it looks like a bunch of women are looking for a “backup husband” (as the study puts it) in case things don’t work out with their current guy.
As disturbing as it is to think there are partners looking for a fallback guy even before the relationship’s over (instead of, you know, ending it first AND then finding someone else), this new discovery is a wake-up call for men nonetheless.
I’m not cool with this kind of behavior, but it does point out the important fact that an Alpha Guy needs to keep his woman happy (regardless of whether she has Husband 2.0 on standby, and in which case, it’s on her).
The Truth About Women
Keeping your girl attracted is never a destination, but a never-ending journey you’ll take with her.
Things will never come to a point where she’ll say, “Yup, I think I’m good right here. You can stop being fun, interesting and affectionate.”
Some guys have told me that you constantly need to game a woman to keep the “chase” going even when you’ve been together for YEARS. And in my own experience, I’d say they couldn’t be more right.
It takes a certain state of mind – specifically, being whip smart – to keep the relationship fresh and vibrant all throughout. Women who cheat on their partners often do so out of boredom and frustration.
Remember all the tingles you felt when you first met your girl? If you’re lazy enough, she’s going to recreate those long-lost tingles with someone else just to recapture that “falling in love stage” (and all the mushy feelings that follow).
So how do you prevent this potential disaster from happening?
Well, the most important thing to remember is that relationships – healthy, lasting ones anyway – never happen by accident. Happiness is always a premeditated effort.
This attitude alone spells the difference between keeping her and losing her to someone else. Let’s face it – people have needs, and they’ll gravitate in another direction if they’re not happy where they are now.
Always Have the Long Game in Mind
Making something happen (i.e. keeping your girl happy and attracted to you) isn’t about taking huge strides, it’s the little steps in between that get you from a casual connection to a committed relationship.
What that means for you is this: If you want to win the war for her heart, you need to win the smaller battles.
A steady dose of love and intrigue is the perfect maintenance plan for your woman. Feed her sizable morsels of the good stuff every day, and she’ll never go hungry.
Most guys think that the solution to a failing relationship is taking drastic measures. All it will do is backfire, if not make her pack her bags faster and find another guy.
Think of it like this – when she’s gradually come to the point where she hates your guts, a weekend at some fancy out-of-town resort is not going to make it all better.
(That also applies to getting her shiny, expensive trinkets to fill that emotional void – just saying.)
