Look, I’m not advocating that you should disrespect women or act like an emotionless robot, but you’ll kill any romantic feelings she has by going over the top TOO SOON.

These things are perfectly fine once the connection is there (i.e. you’re officially a couple), but anything before that is putting on the cart before the horse.

#3: Being Terrified of “Offending” Her

Let’s be clear on this one – genuinely offending her, such as touching or making sexual remarks too early on will deservedly earn you a smack in the face.

But being too afraid to disagree with her, have a little good-spirited fun or caring too much if she likes you is something else.

That’s why “surrendering” yourself is such a turn-off.

Where’s the fun in saying “yes” to everything she says, acting TOO polite and basically sterilizing yourself of any masculinity?

Women don’t choose “bad boys” because they like being treated like crap. It’s just that the typical bad boy is appealing in the sense that he doesn’t mind being turned down by a particular girl.

He’s not attached to a particular outcome, so her approval (or lack thereof) isn’t going to make him less of a man. He’s respectful of a woman’s boundaries, but he’ll talk to her under the assumption that they’re EQUALS (even though he thinks she’s hot).

Here’s a thought: instead of holding back too much and turning into a weak, approval-seeking version of yourself, why not risk joking around with a woman?

What do you really have to lose by looking for the absurd in a situation and pointing it out to her? Maybe you’re at a bar and the band playing isn’t too hot; you could make a joke about their cheesy cover songs.

Or if you’re on the subway and some crazy commuter is blasting “Adventure Time” on his laptop (yes, this actually happened), you can make a funny comment about it with the lady sitting next to you.

Sure, she could brush you off and tell you to get lost, but I guarantee you that NOT all women will respond that way.

On some level, you need to detach yourself from the fear of the unknown and take a risk.

That kind of risk-taking attitude is what turns women on. When you aren’t deathly afraid of what she’ll think or say, you’ll paradoxically create attraction.

Why? It’s because you’re not looking to her for approval, and you’re perfectly fine moving on and not looking back if she’s not feeling it.

The less you look like you want/need something from her, the less she’ll feel pressured into liking you.

However, some guys might need a little help in the confidence department to pull off this attitude. Don’t worry though – that’s where I come in.

If you’re in need of some character-building guidance, you’d best head on over here TODAY.

Yours in Dating Success,

– Carlos Xuma