How To Win With Women

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What is attraction?

How To Create Attraction – Building Comfort

Comfort is the bedrock of any interaction. It’s much easier to like, invest and fall in love with someone you feel comfortable around, someone you’ve bonded with. Most men starting out don’t build enough comfort though… it’s the single greatest mistake they make.

These jackasses read books and posts about negging (blowing a girl out/ giving her a backhanded compliment that’s more like an insult than a compliment) and they see that as cool and like it’s the thing that makes them stand out the most. So they try it way too soon into the interaction and end up insulting the girl they’re talking too. I was like this too at first. I was not building nearly enough comfort before disqualifying a girl. I sat and thought about how to change this. So I developed a system to be in a safe zone of comfort before making my seductive moves (by disqualifying her with backhanded compliments, being picky and so forth.)

The single best way to learn how to get with a girl is to learn how to build comfort and to spark the attraction is by getting an investment through what I call A&A (Affirm And Ask).

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How To Create Attraction – Being The Alpha Male

When you would ask me how to create attraction, I’d tell you to start being the alpha male. But how does that relate to creating attraction? Find out today!

Back when I started meeting and dating women I used to ask myself: “What makes someone alpha? And how to create attraction by being alpha? How man? How!?”

Well, the best relationship experts in the world are quick to tell us how to create attraction and what characteristics alpha males have. But here’s the thing: they don’t go too deep into it or explain the underlying reasons why or how to display these qualities of the so called “alpha male”, the leader of the pack, the most dominant male, or whatever you’d like to call it.

And that’s why I decided to take the time to write down some of my own insights. I’ve broken down what makes someone an alpha male into 5 things. I’m going to go through each one of them in more detail so you’ll know how to get with a girl by being an alpha male afterwards.

So heeeeere we go:

How To Create Attraction With A Silly Thing Called “Abundance”

Alpha males are not desperate. …

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Attracting Women With Foreignality Part II

Now…let´s go a little more IN-DEPTH on the stuff we discussed in the first part of this article. I don’t want to confuse anyone, so it’s important to start with the first part and THEN digest this sequel to it. Now: He who controls the frame, controls the interaction. Examples of frames: boss-employee, parent-child, buyer-seller etc. We are attracted to people with higher status then ourselves, so we should use the opportunity to assume the most favorable stance: the dominant one. You convey this by conversational scaling: show your upper hand by keeping her challenged while remaining calm. There are three techniques for this: the picky buyer stance, playful teasing and active challenging. But let’s go from the general terms to applying them to Foreignality here.

Being Picky, Challenging And Teasing Her Part II

The best part of it all is that when you tease, challenge and/or be picky ABOUT someone’s foreignality you basically put them in a double bind: you’re busting their balls AND there is very little to reply on. Example: let’s say your american and the foreign woman of choice is Chinese. I can start about her being involved in a secret consipracy to overthrow the …