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Carlos Xuma Column – All Is Fair In Love And War

Let´s talk about one of my favorite subjects: having a guilty conscience… just kidding! I do want to talk about the so called ´shoulds´ and ´should nots´ though, the things that people tell you are not done and smart to do.

Let get straight to the point: people will tell you a whole bunch of crap, especially men when it comes to women & dating. You see, most men HAVE NO CLUE about what women want or what women are really attracted to. It´s not their fault or your fault though, no, it´s all because of our ´machismo culture´.

We as men are raised with the mindset that talking about our feelings is WRONG, that talking about women in a different context than sex or body parts is WRONG, and about problems with women? We simply DON´T talk. What men do is this:

Guy 1: ¨How you doing Todd?¨
Guy 2: ¨My girl just broke up with me man…¨
Guy 1: ¨Damn thats f*cked up man… want a beer?¨

And that´s it. Most men NEVER talk about the how to´s… how to get a woman´s phone number, how to call women, how to create attraction, and especially not the sensitive …

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Carlos Xuma Column – My Own Column

I’ve noticed a couple of trends lately in the “seduction community”, the entire collection of men that want to get better at meeting & dating women or teach others how to do it, that I find very amuzing and I thought I’d share them with you today…

1) Some dating gurus are a living paradox…
I teach men how to meet and date women too, but no this is not me bashing on the competition claiming how I’m so much better and what not. I’ve talked to guys like Adam Lyons (to some known as AFC Adam) and Carlos Xuma, and they’re cool guys… just like a lot of other gurus out there. The best of ’em actually have someone to say that you can learn from too, high quality stuff.

But what I don’t understand about some of these guys is…

If your goal is to help men become better men, become more confident and so forth… then why are you so insecure that you feel the need to ban people when they want to share a negative experience about you or want to help people themselves? It sounds like teaching how to build confidence when you aren’t confident …

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Pre Game: What To Do

There are many in depth gaming methods, many ways to teach you routines and how to open a group of girls. Ways that teach you how to build rapport and to make that all important final move to kissing. But from my research I’ve seen that not many experts help you build up to the opening moment. Or give you tips what they do just prior to a night out, or how to prepare before going out to meet women. So to pre game is to prepare yourself, for going out socializing, meeting women and having a good time. Here is a snippet of what I do, how I go about preparing and pre gaming, to help you guys ready yourselves in the right way for an evening of enjoyment.

Most People make the mistake of trying to be too professional about it. They are concentrating, focusing and Being deep in thought. Preparing themselves for the night ahead, like it’s a battle. On the way to a club or venue they are silent, trying to remember all the stuff they’ve learned, every routine or DHV they’ve seen. Cramming it in their minds like it’s before a big exam. Others are …