Category: Columns

Having Success With Women & Dating: Persistance Is The Key

Whoever I’ve met, whoever I’ve studied, whoever I’ve read about. Whoever I haven’t met in my life that is winning with women, whoever it may be. We all share one quality, persistence. It may be the singe most vital element in achieving your goals with women. They and I have persisted through allot of obstacles. Whether they’d like to admit it or not. The saying persistence is the key is no joke, it’s very true.  When the going was tough, we pushed on, fought through the pain barrier, worked hard to achieve the desired results. Shrugging off failed approaches and not getting despondent, always moving forward, because the will to win is too great.

People give up too easily in everything in life. Be it before even starting out, in the middle or just at the end, when it gets too hard for them. I read once “people never fail, they just give up.” that is so true. The great people of our time of their respected fields will always tell you they worked hard for what they got. Especially the social artists we all look up to. Now persistence is not only vital, because you keep trying and learning, …

Day Game VERSUS Club Game

First things first. I titled this blog; day game vs. club game instead of day game vs. night game, due to the fact that these are the two situations we always find ourselves in. Not a night game. Let’s face it…

If you’re at a coffee shop at night or day, the setting is the same. The energy levels are the same and the type of approach you’d do is very much the same. That being said, club game or party/social function is different in of all these ways, and now we’ll discuss the differences.

I already discussed this a bit in my blog hit piece about having game, but there is more to it than that so let’s dig into it today!

There is a great illusion among would be pick up artists (guys new to meeting & dating women) that day game is forbidden and extremely difficult and should only be done by a skilled experienced social masters and that club game is the easier, only way to start. Let me dispel this right now. Day game is by far easier and more effective in every way! And it is a better learning experience than club game …

Carlos Xuma Column – Why I Give Dating Advice

Most men are totally unprepared for having the success with women they want, in fact, for having any success with women at all… while men are the pursuers by nature. That’s the way the world currently works whether we like it or not: it’s socially not accepted for women to chase men around, so we are more or less FORCED to approach them first…

The education that we have had when it comes to women is entirely wrong though: your upbringing, Hollywood and religion somehow made you as a man think that women fall for the nice, predictable guy who does everything for them and showers them with gifts, dinners, flowers and compliments… but nothing could be further from the truth…

And without proper education? The proper dating advice?

The levels of frustration, unhappiness and loneliness that you will experience will skyrocket while your overall chances of success with women hits rock bottom! You will end up chasing your own tail: feeling miserable and thus trying hard to “get the girl”(but by doing the wrong things you were told would work), and feeling even more miserable because of it when you see they don’t work. You start thinking it’s you …