These days you can’t walk ten feet without bumping into someone whose face is stuck in their cell phone, texting away. And even though it’s illegal here in California, you see everyone on their phones in their cars, too.

Texting has become one of the most important ways to communicate – probably as much as sending an email or posting on Facebook. It’s fast, easy, and immediate.

And it’s also one of the most common questions I get from guys:

“Carlos, how can I text a girl and flirt with her? I want to get her interested and out on a date with me…”

Fair enough. I’ll do my best to give you some high quality examples of texts that I use to spike a woman’s interest in me.

But first…

We have to clear something up right away: Your goal for texting girls is not to get her on a date with you.

Well, not directly anyway.

Your only goal for texting her is to keep you in her mind, and give her a little jellybean of “feel good” each time you do.

The biggest mistake guys make is to text a woman

…

John has secretly had a crush on the girl who works at the local deli. He’s wanted to ask her out on a date.

He’s been eyeing her for months, and he finally got the courage to get her phone number.

He called me up last night wanting to know what to text her. Which is interesting because that seems to be the most common question I get from guys these days.

They want to know what to say to her, some funny things to text a girl, how to seduce a girl through texts…

And especially that all-important first text to send a girl.

The easiest place to start is to tell you what NOT to text a girl…

You want to avoid any kind of text that shows that you’re a Text Slacker.

What is a Text Slacker? He’s the guy who barely puts any effort into his texts to women.

He usually sends a text like:

“‘sup?”

or

“Hey…”

or

“Yo”

Hoping that he’s SO cool that the other person will just gush a response back to him just because he initiated contact. Which is not only narcissistic and arrogant, it’s …