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Inner Game & Confidence 101: Video #1 About What Inner Game Really is

Dear friend, it’s Carlos Xuma again and I think I’ve got some GREAT news for you today: I’m starting a free video series about “inner game”, how to build your confidence, how female psychology works, and how to make your very identity attractive to women and much more…

Join me on this journey during which I’ll show you step by step what techniques and insights I used to build my “inner game” and confidence from the ground up (which took me 5 friggin’ years), and how I helped 80 guys with getting their act together and with building their self esteem .

In today’s video, the first one, I talk about what “Inner Game” really is and how inner issues prevent you from achieving the success with women you want because of insecurities, fears and limiting beliefs about how the world AND how women work.

I’ll explain to you why it’s important to take a close look at your “comfort zone”: the range of things you do and think that feel comfortable for you, and why it will stop you dead in your tracks with women & dating every time you go out and try to meet women no matter …

Dealing with jealousy

Inner Game & Confidence 101: Dealing With Jealousy

What happens to most men as soon as they see a woman or girl they like talk to another man? They become jealous… duhhh. But what if jealousy prevents you from having the success with women you want?

And where does jealousy come from anyway?

Here’s the story: the moment you see or heard that the woman you like was talking to another man who seemed to be a sexual threat to her (as in – there’s a chance that he could create attraction), you start to doubt yourself.

You start to doubt yourself and your own abilities, which leads to a fear of “losing the girl”. Since you obviously want to prevent that, you’ll try hard not to lose her… too hard.

You become needy for her attention and approval, you want to make sure that YOU’RE the favorite one (and often get angry if she doesn’t literally say that she likes you more than she likes him), and guess what the funny thing about that is?

By being needy, desperate and picking fights with her all the time because you’re scared of losing her… she’ll be turned off more and more, the attraction she felt for you becomes …

Bad boys

Inner Game & Confidence 101: The Way Of The Bad Boy

A lot of guys come up to me and ask: “Carlos… why do women never go for nice guys, and why do they always fall in love with the bad boy?” And here’s why…

A bad boy is one big contradiction:

– He is the dangerous, extremely confident man who doesn’t give a crap about society, rules, or any form of authority and is full of adventure VERSUS the small, innocent boy in a big man’s body that needs saving in a moment of weakness because he can’t help himself

– He’s the perfect escape from boring every day life filled with its routines, nagging and obligations VERSUS the escape is only temporarily, sooner or later a woman knows that her heart will be broken, and she accepts… because he was only an escape, he “doesn’t count”

– When a bad boy is with a woman, he lives in the moment, and makes love to her like it’s the last thing he’ll ever do: raw, passionate sex and always making her feel so very CLOSE to him… VERSUS the times he vanishes into thin air, nowhere to be seen, nothing to be heard, who knows if the rebel in him …