Hi it’s Carlos Xuma from the winwithwomenblog.com here and I just crave to talk about the basics of having good “game”… the essentials of how to get the girl, of how to achieve dating success.

It’s also what I’ll be talking about during my FREE live tv show I’m going to broadcast live on the internet on January 23, 2010, because how can you be an attraction powerhouse with women when you didn’t got the foundations of the house right?

So consider this dating article to be a sneak preview of what I’ll be discussing during the show, during which you can also ask me for dating advice on your personal dating questions.

For more info about how to watch the show and what the show is all about go to:

http://win-with-womenblog.com/?p=1416

Onward…

There are 5 “building blocks” on your way to becoming an attraction powerhouse that can get ANY girl and you’ll need to build all of them if you want your success with women to last:

Building Block For Good Game #1:

Immortal Inner Game

Even if you would learn a 1000 techniques for meeting women, if you still fear rejection, then ALL those techniques will be built on fear and you’ll achieve success only if the stars align to make you one lucky bastard. Same goes for the fear of failure and for approach anxiety, which is the fear of approaching women.

I’m calling it immortal inner game here, because there’s no quick fix on your way to building confidence. No amount of crutches will help you to be confident once it’s you and her alone in your room… no clothes, jewelry, magic tricks, cold reading techniques… no thing.

You need to have PERMANENT confidence from within, instead of getting temporary confidence boosts from material things.

It’s also important to note that, in a world run by pick up artists that try to invent one fancy technique after the other, thinking you need techniques to help you be successful with women is subconsciously thinking there is something wrong with YOU. With how you look for example.

I’ve seen it hundreds of times with my students: they underestimate their looks because they have unrealistic expectations of themselves, meanwhile women give them signals of interest, but they think it was accidental because they’re stuck in their “I’m not worthy” mindset.

Building Block For Good Game #2:

Body Language 2.0

Voice tone, posture, speed of movement, facial expressions, and especially where you put your freaking hands while talking to women… are all aspects of your body language you need to work on.

90% of communication is done with our bodies, so radiating insecurity by constantly keeping your hands in your pocket or fidgeting around with them while talking to women is NOT good for your dating success. Duhhh.

I’m calling this block body language 2.0 though because the guys that actually DO work on body language, only work on their own… and still don’t recognize a woman’s signals of interest.

Example: the human eye needs less than half a second to recognize it’s environment to make sure you don’t bump into a telephone booth or whatever. The consequences are huge: if a woman looks your way for several seconds, guess what that means? There’s some interest there! Most men just think a woman accidently looked their way… the dumb asses!

So while the vast majority of men, including pick up artists, is crying or complaining about being rejected half the time, they forget that women are rejected several times every single day because the men don’t recognize them looking their way as being interested…

Knowing these kinds of things can mean a WORLD of difference, wouldn’t you agree?

Building Block For Good Game #3:

Outer Game

There’s a huge overkill of techniques for meeting women out there in the big, bad world and most of them are like going on vacation to take a break from all the stress of work or school. It seems to work several times, but the effects never last.

And that’s because if you still have the fear of rejection or failure, and if you still have insecurities you need to take care of, every single technique will be half as effective… or worse.

Techniques are also merely tactics for the “what to do right now” situations, while you’ll be missing the bigger picture. The principles of attraction. Women fall for personality and charisma, so develop the personality traits that create attraction and the techniques will flow from those.

You won’t need to remember he exact words or exact actions or whatever like with most techniques, you’ll just see which trait a woman responds to most and you stick with it. Don’t make life more difficult than it can be, learn the principles, not the tactics… because understanding the principles let’s you invent your OWN tactics 🙂

So all outer game really is, is a collection of the best practices. The tactics that work in most situations, but again, the principles are of much more value to you.

Building Block For Good Game #4:

Social Skills

Even if you have a great lifestyle, great body language, immortal inner game, and an understanding of the principles of attraction instead of a handful of tactics… you’ll still end up dead in the water if you get this part wrong.

Social skills. If you don’t have them and are all awkward or ONLY game around women, you’ll turn them off faster than serial killers turn off the lights in horror movies.

The ability to have a normal conversation with people, to relate with them, to have them opening up to you, and to have a good time with them. If you don’t have it, you’re far from good company and that will severely limit your chances of meeting women.

It’s about having a feeling for recognizing what people need to hear or do most right now, such as taking out that female friend of yours for some ice cream after her boyfriend just broke up with her.

DON’T underestima the power of social skills: you won’t believe how many women I’ve met and dated with a social understanding of what was going on, like in the case of a woman having a rough time.

Simply voicing your understanding and acting upon something like that, has meant being seen as the knight in shiny armor and thus as the potential new boyfriend… on more than one occassion for me!

Building Block For Good Game #5: Lifestyle

If you don’t get out much, how can you ever expect to meet one beautiful woman after another? If you stay in on Friday’s and Saturday’s, how’s that even possible?

If you have nothing to do, on ANY day, you go out. To the center of town, to the beach, to a city you’ve always wanted to go to, to some friends. I don’t care. As long as you surround yourself with people as soon as you don’t have anything to do, you’ll meet new people in no time… and yes, that includes women!

All of a sudden you’ll be invited to birthdays (and there are always women at birthdays), parties at home, you’ll go out to clubs and bars together with people that know other people there, and so on.

And what about living a from point A to B life? Because that’s how most people live their lives: get up, go to work, go home, go get food, go to bed… they mindlessly go from A to B without ever paying attention to their surroundings.

I used to be guilty of this sin too. I was hungry and went to get food at the supermarket, and never even saw that sexy woman in the isle I passed by. Didn’t even saw that woman looking at me during my lunch break at work , and so on.

Simple remember: whenever you go out, it’s GAME TIME. Nex t to you opening your eyes to many more opportunities to meet women, this also has an added advantage: total immersion.

If you want to become good with anything, the more you expose yourself to it and are involved in it, the faster you’ll become better and the better you’ll become! So take a good, long look at how you currently live your life too if you REALLY want to achieve dating success…

And like I said before:

Consider this dating article to be a sneak preview of what I’ll be discussing during the show, during which you can also ask me for dating advice on your personal dating problems.

For more info about how to watch the show and what the show is all about go to:

http://win-with-womenblog.com/?p=1416

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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