- She should say YES
- She should NEVER say NO
- She should really be interested – not just trying to win a free meal
- Pete W. – Manhattan, KS
- “Dude, you gotta be confident…”
- “You gotta know how to talk to women…”
- “You gotta know how to dress…”
- “You gotta…”
Starting a conversation with a girl
With the introduction of dating apps like WhatsApp and Tinder, the act of actually having to talk to someone has become less necessary. There are, however, times when guys have the opportunity to approach a girl, but they do not.
They can’t really be blamed for this because it can be truly terrifying to approach an attractive girl. There is always the possibility of rejection…
And there isn’t a single person on this planet who actively seeks it out.
While this fear can be completely understandable, it does mean that guys miss out on countless opportunities.
Never underestimate the value of new interactions
Forget about anything romantic – when you don’t go up to that girl at the bar , you are missing the opportunity to meet someone new. New people offer up new experiences, new insights, new stories and generally broaden one’s outlook on life.
These interactions are invaluable, and they should not be passed up simply out of fear. This is obviously easier said than done, and it is at this point where it would be useful to discuss how to actually go about starting a conversation with this fabled girl.
Saying that you only have one chance …
How To Ask A Girl Out – 3 Steps
When it comes to asking a girl out, there are 3 results you want:
I’m sure I’ll get a lot of feminist hate mail for #3, but I don’t care. I’m here to help you safely navigate the treacherous waters of dating and mating.
The ideal process of asking a girl out would never include the possibility she would say NO to you. Rejection is something men universally despise.
So I’m going to give you 3 Simple Steps to asking a girl out. I’ll also give you the (mostly) foolproof method here to accomplish the goal.
What you will have to do is bring a willingness to see the TRUTH about the girl you want, and not fool yourself about what her actual interest in you is. Because here’s my –
UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTH #1: If she doesn’t really like you, then you don’t want to date her.
I know that one SHOULD be obvious.
HOWEVER you’d be surprised how many guys want to go out with a girl – even knowing that she’s not that into …
What To Say To A Woman – 7 Phrases That Make Women Hot For You
What To Say To A Woman – 7 Phrases That Make Women Hot For You
When it comes to talking to women, knowing WHAT to say is huge.
It’s probably the most common question I get from guys, in fact.
“What do I say to her?”
And it’s just as important to know how to talk to a girl in a way that gets her sexually interested in you.
Let’s start off with a few things you shouldn’t say to a girl:
DON’T SAY THIS TO HER 1: Overly personal questions…
Some guys jump right into a rapid-fire interrogation of a woman when they meet her. It’s not meant to be scary or weird, just curious.
But if you ask her a bunch of questions about where she lives, where she works, where she likes to hang out, etc, it can freak a girl out.
Remember, women are always sensitive and aware of the threat of possible sexual assault, so you have to be sensitive to this when talking to her.
DON’T SAY THIS TO HER 2: Complimenting her on her appearance…
There is a right way and a wrong way to bring up a woman’s appearance. Most …
How To Make A Conversation Sexual – 3 Tips
How To Make A Conversation Sexual – How To Talk To Women – 3 Tips
This week, I’ve got you something from the mailbag…
QUESTION FROM A READER:
Carlos, I’ve been going out on a ton of dates lately, but I’ve run up against some obstacles.
I get into conversations with women, but I can’t seem to break into the “attraction zone” with many of the women. They all seem to keep me on this friendship level, and I don’t know what to do.
I want to get our conversations on a sexual level somehow…
What should I do?
______________________
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Pete, that’s a fantastic question that men everywhere want to know the answer to… in fact, it’s the key to kick-starting a woman’s attraction in that first conversation with her.
Why You Can’t Get A Girlfriend – 7 Reasons
Why You Can’t Get A Girlfriend – 7 Reasons
One thing I’ve learned doing dating coaching over the last 16 years, and that’s this:
Most men (and women!) have almost NO CLUE about how attraction between the sexes really works.
Now, when I say NO CLUE – I mean that they THINK they understand it, and PRETEND to understand relationships, but honestly don’t. I think it’s mostly because they don’t want to seem like they’re ignorant to the other 98% of the population that is also pretending to know what they’re doing.
Most of the guys who pretend to know how to date a lot of girls will give you the same lame advice:
Well, sad to say that half of these guys are usually “naturals” with women (meaning they intuitively have gotten women without knowing what the $#&% they are doing, or they’re good looking.)
The other half are guys that don’t really have ANY skill with women, but just happen to have a girlfriend at the moment. Which means they’re currently doing 100% better …
3 Steps To Becoming The Man That Women Want
3 Steps To Becoming The Man That Women Want
Women are attracted to masculine men, no matter what the media tries to tell you.
You’re going to hear more and more nauseating, confusing and ridiculous information that tells you to “condemn the patriarchy” and embrace someone else’s ‘vision’ (agenda) for the future.
Go ahead and listen to them, and read them if you like, but keep your critical thinking hat on.
Don’t let them confuse you from the truth about what women want.
Women want one thing and one thing only, no matter how much everyone tries to believe the opposite:
Women want real MEN.
What’s a ‘real man,’ anyway? Isn’t that subjective?
Doesn’t that just change depending on who you ask?
No, not really.
Masculine – AKA ‘manly’ – traits are fairly consistent.
In my 16 years of doing this dating advice for men gig, one thing I’ve noticed is that feminists (and women with issues – often the same people) rarely (like almost NEVER) challenge me. They seem to sense right off the bat that I’m fully grounded in my identity as a man. I don’t buy into their fluffy white idealistic …
Is getting women mission impossible for you? It doesn’t have to be thanks to secrets about attraction and how to get women most men will never know…
But before I go ahead and reveal my secrets about getting women, I want to ask you this:
Don’t you just hate it when you see a confident guy getting women left and right in some random club after talking to them for only a few minutes?
And do you find it hard to get women yourself because you’re insecure for various reasons, too shy… and/or because you think you’re not worthy or out of a hot woman’s league anyways?
Tell me: do you want to be that guy in that random club for a change? Do you want to know how to go from one date every few months (or every year)… to one date a week or better?
If so, then I welcome you to the Win With Women blog.
This is the place where you learn how getting women is done from A to Z.
Most Popular Blog Posts About Getting Women
Below you’ll find the top 10 of most popular blog posts about getting women.
Click on any blog post about how to get women that interests you to find out more…
On a side note: you can discover more about getting women and transform yourself from mud into stud by clicking on one of the topics of your interest on the right side of the screen. You can also keep reading to find out more about dating…
New Blog Posts About Getting Women
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Getting Women: Learn How It’s Done
Whether you know absolutely nothing about what women want in a man, let alone how getting women is done, or already know a thing or two about how to get women…
Below you’ll find a short list of “resource pages,” which are pages that link to the vast majority of blog posts we’ve ever written about a certain topic:
– How to text a girl
– Write a profile for dating
Upcoming pages on specific areas of getting women include: a page on how to call women, one on how to get with a girl (including everything from approaching to attracting to dating), and one on how to talk to women online.
Going through only one resource page can already mean DOUBLING your dating success, yes, even if your dry spell has been lasting months or even years by now…
And if you want to gain access to more awesome and FREE tips about other aspects of getting women, click on ANY topic on the right side of your screen for more information!
Frequently Asked Questions About Getting Women
Not sure where you should start with learning how getting women is done? Then check out some of the most frequently asked questions about a certain area of dating:
| Getting girls | Calling girls |
| Meeting girls online | Texting girls |
Just click on any of the above mentioned areas of dating to go to a page with the most common questions men have about how to get women and, of course, answers to all of them.
New Here? Or New To Learning How To Get Women?
In case you’re asking yourself: “who the hell is this guy trying to tell me how I should start getting women and what in the world is the Win With Women blog?”
Then I highly recommend you check out our New Here page where you can find out more about me (Carlos Xuma) and Win With Women before you take any advice from us.
Hey, I understand. I’m always sceptical when people try to tell me what to do, so be sure to check it out that page for a “formal introduction” of what makes us so freaking special.
And let me warn you in advance: no, this is not where you’ll find tricks, magic, canned pick up lines or other trickery to “lure” women into bed by being completely dishonest.
And this is not where you learn a method, some sort of set of instruments for getting women based on math, hypnosis or other crap. The only method to our madness is psychology.
I’ll show you who you are, what the dating game is all about, and how you can start to get women as fast as humanly possible whether you want “Miss Right” or “Miss Right Now”…
And all without hurting women’s feelings. Isn’t that what you came here for?
Read THIS Before You Get Another Tip For Getting Women
The goal behind my site with tips for getting women has and always will be to give regular guys like you and me real advice, so let me be real with you here…
And when I say let me be real with you about how to get women, I mean I want to address some of the BS dating coaches and so called “pick up artists” try to make you believe:
– There is no such thing as “THE” technique or character trait that all women respond to equally well, because all women are not made equal. Playful teasing is a lot less effective when used around real insecure women for example. Being unpredictable like bad boys are doesn’t work as well when used on women with neurotic tendencies (and there are millions of those) for example.
– When it comes to learning how getting women is done, and with using character traits in particular, you cannot “get the girl” no matter how attractive others say playful teasing is if you have no sense of humor at all. Don’t try to be what you aren’t. Use what you’re naturally good at and get women with it, that’s what we try to teach men…
– The best teacher is, and always will be, experience. Your own experience. No amount of knowledge will help you if you don’t put it into practice.
– Getting women is not success in and of itself, because it would mean you’re FAILING when you’re alone. No. Success is getting what you want when you say you want it.
These are some of the principles we believe in here at Win With Women. And, frankly?
This is the truth about the dating game and learning how to get women. Any dating coach or pick up artist that claims otherwise is, I’m sorry to say, a complete fraud.
You know I’m right.
More On Getting Women…
The best way to get women continually changes, not only because society and technology change, but also because YOUR skill level changes.
That’s why we’re building a completely new section of the site where we’ll separate tips on getting women for beginners from those for more advanced daters… and those, in turn, from the advice for the experts.
We’ll even write a little quiz for you that tests how easily you can get women, so you get a clear sense of where you are now in terms of dating success… plus so you can read and put into practice what you need to get even better at getting women to make it to the advanced level, or even to the expert level…
If you can’t wait to get women with tips for your skill level, then you can check out what we’ve made so far on the seduction techniques page.
And when the time comes, we’ll send an update to everyone that reads our newsletters letting them know the skill level section is completely finished… so make sure you sign up for the newsletter if you want to be one of the first to know AND hone your skills in the getting women department!
And I think the rest of the Win With Women blog speaks for itself. So what are you waiting for? Start learning how getting women is done!
That leaves me with one thing left to say: we hope you like our thoughts on getting women.
To More Dating Success,
Carlos Xuma
Win With Women
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