REAL Attraction 101

In reality, looking great is an indication of something more attractive, which is a self-respecting attitude.

Here’s what I mean:

• Putting time and effort into how you look and smell means you care enough to function in everyday life.
• FACT: there are men who aren’t physically flawless (which is about 99.9% of the male population), but have still managed to get dates. That’s because they work with what they have, which means they VALUE themselves (i.e. a highly attractive quality).
• When you take care of yourself this way, it gives a woman an idea of how you manage the rest of your life.

That last point is especially important because that’s really what a guy’s looks mean to a woman. If they feel that you’re on top of things in a general sense, it just makes for a better partner.

So I helped Steve understand that he was going about it the wrong way.

He eventually understood that a guy shouldn’t look good for the sole purpose of getting something in return – like getting a woman to like you.

Like Steve, you might ask, “Isn’t that the point, to get a woman’s approval?”

And I’ll tell you what I told him: no, not really.

You can only GET respect, not demand it from other people.

So, the real recipe to attraction is being the COMPLETE package.

By cultivating a genuine attitude and dressing up like an adult, you’ll be a QUALITY guy on all fronts.

Winning other people’s approval – and attracting women in the process – is merely an after effect of treating yourself right.

Looking great is fine, but don’t forget to work on your confidence level too. And if you’re only motivated by what other people think of you, it defeats the purpose of taking care of yourself.

What’s REALLY Driving You?

No matter how well-polished you are on the surface, you still wouldn’t get a woman if your inner reality was incongruent with your looks.

Let me give you an idea of some self-sabotaging behaviors:

• Being ultra-focused on your perceived flaws, thinking that better-looking guys are BETTER than you.
• Constantly making fun of the things you don’t like about yourself. It might be funny the first couple of times, but women are turned off by low self-esteem.
• Telling women you’re sorry or acting apologetic because you’re not tall or handsome enough. If you think she’s “out of your league”, so will she.

After we worked out these kinks with Steve, he found that he didn’t need to care about other people’s opinion of him.

More importantly, Steve finally understood that women who like hot-bodied guys shouldn’t discourage him. All it actually stands for is a deeper desire for INTERNAL qualities that men should have.

I’m happy to report that it all worked out for Steve in the end. After his long overdue attitude makeover, he was able to find just the right girl for him (they recently got engaged too!).

If you’re bothered by some physical quality you have, go ahead and do something about it. Stylists, barbers, fitness coaches and other professionals can help you with that.

But don’t just do it so women will like you. Do it because you know you’re worth spending some hard-earned money to look the best you can.

Do it because you respect yourself and want to feel good about who you are.

When people – and not just women – can see that, they’ll know you’re doing it for yourself and not just them.

Plus, not worrying about how you look is a KILLER attraction booster; it projects a vibe that emanates confidence, NOT insecurity.

As it happens, there’s another natural confidence booster you need to know about. It’s having healthy testosterone levels (a.k.a. what makes you masculine) – and making sure it never drops.

You can learn all about it by checking it out right here.

Stay Alpha…

– Carlos Xuma