Today you’ll discover how to be attractive to girls in 3 easy steps, right here on the Win With Women blog! Because it doesn’t have to be frustrating…

Because you can be attractive to girls by knowing yourself, knowing what you want, and knowing what they want. Let’s find out how you can do each of these three things below…

Be Attractive To Girls By Knowing Yourself

Before you learn how to be attractive to girls, you need to know yourself first.

Here’s what you need to do and/or know in a nutshell…

1) You don’t need a girl to complete you: most guys think they’re looking for their “better half” to complete them, their soulmate, but this entire mindset is FLAWED. You see, when you assume you need someone or something to complete you… then you’re ALSO assuming that there’s something wrong with you until you do that.

Better said, you can’t be attractive to girls if you think you’re a mistake or half yourself without them. So, girls are a (very) nice addition to your life, but they ARE not your life. The moment you believe that is the moment you become dependent on someone else to determine how you feel, who you are, etc. and that’s never a good thing.

2) Knowing how to be attractive to girls is about handling your emotional bagage: if you can’t love yourself, then you can’t love someone else. You need to truly accept yourself as a human being, so that both your strengths AND your weaknesses make you who you are. Your (physical) flaws are what make you human.

3) Be yourself: you can’t be attractive to girls by bragging about yourself, working your but off to get them, and so on simply because if a girl doesn’t accept you for who you are then why be with her? Why be with someone who’s always trying to change you? That’s disrespecting yourself because you think you can’t get any better, not loving someone else.

How To Be Attractive To Girls By Knowing What You Want

Speaking of girls who are and aren’t right for you, let’s discover how to be attractive to girls by knowing what you want…

If you don’t stand for something, you fall for anything: if you’re trying to be attractive to girls of all shapes, sizes, kinds, and colors, then you’re only somewhat attractive to some of them. It’s better to focus all your efforts and time on getting your IDEAL woman… and everyone has an ideal type. But you need to go beyond the physical traits of a girl though.

For example, I’m attracted to girls with big, dark colored eyes and long hair. Usually they have dark colored hair and look foreign, but I’m also drawn towards blonds with long hair and big, brown eyes. But how can I be attractive to all these looks? There’s no way to prepare for that dude, so go deeper…

If you want to be attractive to girls, then you need to know your TYPE of girl. Are you into sporty chicks? Wild chicks? Intelligent chicks? Spiritual chicks? Foreign chicks (and if so, which country)?

Once you narrow it down, it’s much easier to start being attractive to girls of that type. For example, I’ll find intelligent chicks at book stores, museums, art galleries, on culture trips, and so on. And if I want to attract them, I read up on popular books, the collection at the museum or art gallery, on the culture we’re checking out… know what I mean?

Be Attractive To Girls By Knowing What They Want

Here’s where knowing yourself and knowing what you want come together and let you be attractive to girls…

Because girls want confident guys who respect themselves, are themselves, and don’t carry around any emotional bagage. That’s why you need to know yourself.

Secondly, in Robert Cialdini’s awesome book Influence, he notes several studies that found people tend to like others who are similar to them more than others who are unfamiliar. In other words, when you share an interest with a woman? It’s much easier to get to talking with her and to keep talking…

Last but not least: if you want to be attractive to girls, then show a genuine interest by:

– Show an interest in their life, likes, and dislikes by asking them personal questions

– When they test you by asking you if you’re a player, by making nasty comments about you, and so on, laugh it away and tell them you love their craziness. women want to be 100% sure that you are as confident as you appear to be, so by laughing every potentially negative thing away you show them that

– Don’t give up when they say “NO” when you ask their number or ask them out. Just take a step back, attract them some more, and try again

And if you want to, you can learn even more about what attracts women. It’s free anyways, so why not?

I hope you’ve learned a thing or two about how to be attractive to girls today!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women