5 Things to Never Text a Woman
Texting women is like dancing blindfolded through a minefield. Do it right and you’ll wind up happily in bed with the girl of your dreams…
Do it wrong and you’ll be turned into hamburger.
Okay, that may not be the most effective metaphor I’ve ever used, but it’s not too far from the truth. One wrong move and you’re just another deleted contact in her bit-bucket.
Recovery is a bit of a nightmare. Women aren’t likely to give you a second chance these days. It’s too easy for her to just move on to some other guy who gets it.
And these days, it’s next to impossible to get a woman’s attention away from her cell phone.
Have you ever walked into a crowded Starbucks, only to see 30 people in line, and every one of them is in a trance-like stupor – eyes glued to their smartphone?
I see it all the time, and it’s kinda sobering to see that all the time.
But the good news is that you can use texting to reach women that were previously out of your reach.
I’ve got a few of the worst errors you can make texting, AND some tips for what you SHOULD be doing to get her interest…
1 – Don’t Text Her This: Anything with an abbreviation in it…
Look, there was a time (in middle or high school) where you could get away with shortening your texts down to just “Wht r u gonna do l8r?”
But now that you can basically talk into your phone and have it type for you, these days of abbreviations are over and done. You need to be verbose with all your texts…
Which will also make you think a little more about what you’re saying before you text a girl. You gotta keep them short and sweet, and this will help you when you’ve got a hottie to text in 160 characters or less.
When you spell at the level of a 6th grader, this won’t charm her one bit — unless you send, “Sup, u out?”
2 – Don’t Text Her This: Don’t text just one woman…
Okay, technically this is not a specific thing to NOT text her, but it’s very relevant to you and how you text girls.
When a guy is just texting only one girl, it’s very easy for him to get caught up in a “scarcity” mentality. If you want to get out of this mindset and become a master of texting girls, then you should be texting as many women as you can.
Here’s why: Texting a bunch of women keeps you in an abundance mentality. And this allows you to develop that kind of prosperous thinking naturally.
Once you have that taken care of, you’ll bring a whole new fun attitude to your texts and messages with women – which is going to make you that much more appealing and attractive to her.
Also, with all the practice you’ll be getting, you’ll have an intuitive knowledge of what you should and shouldn’t text a girl.
3 – Don’t Text Her This: Don’t mass text
Mass texting a bunch of girls at once is a HUGE no-no. Especially now when you can bet her phone will report it if someone responds.
It’s a “duh,” but worth mentioning.
I suggest you make sure you’re using my texting rules (LINK TO: https://www.win-with-women.com/calling-women/ )
4 – Don’t Text Her This: Last minute invites
Asking a girl out over text is acceptable, but definitely not preferred. Just leave a grace period between when you press send on your cool invitation and the actual night it’s going down.
Now, on the if-chance that you actually do have something coming up at the last minute, it’s not necessarily bad for you to put it out there. Especially if you think she won’t be able to make it.
Why?
Because her “Sorry, I can’t” will inevitably make her feel a bit more obligated to follow through on your next serious suggestion.
Evil? Maybe.
But if it works, sometimes the results are all that matters.
5 – Don’t Text Her This: Your Feelings!
I’m always amazed at how many guys break this rule. You can NEVER reveal feelings for a girl in a text.
First of all, texting is not an emotional medium. She knows this, and it will only start her giggling when you tell her your feelings over the Network.
If you have feelings you want to share with her, wait until the time is right when you see her. But even better is to not even do it then (find out why by clicking HERE).
Otherwise, you run the risk of sounding really sad and pathetic.
Okay, so let’s talk about a few things you should be doing when it comes to texting women the right way.
After you avoid the mistakes, it’s time to make sure you’re doing the right things, too…
DO THIS – Texting Tip 1: Don’t text her too much
Nothing can ruin attraction and destroy your chances of seeing her again quite like texting a girl too much. It makes you look needy and insecure.
And it gives no challenge for the girl (which means she’ll just get bored and move on).
Here are a few simple tips for texting girls that will help you text a girl just the right measure:
When texting a girl, keep the text ratio as close to 1:1 as you can. Even better is if you can let her text you two times for every one of yours.
You want to send her about as many texts as she sends you – or fewer. And try to keep each text roughly the same length in words and characters.
Avoid needless texts. Don’t text a girl in situations where she doesn’t need to respond to you.
For example, you don’t need to reply to her “have a good night!” text if you’re just going to text back “you too!” or “g’night!” It feels weird and weak.
At this point the conversation is pretty much over. Let it end with her.
Which leads me to…
DO THIS – Texting Tip 2: Let her be the last one to text for long stretches.
Ideal is texting her that good night, she responds, and you’re done. She is now left with wondering when she can talk to you again.
If she’s the last one to text this means that she’s already stopped because she’s had enough, which means you probably pushed it into “Enough already!” space.
Just let her end it.
You get bonus points for leaving her hanging on a question she’s asked you. They typical wuss move is to answer a woman back as soon as she texts a question.
When she senses that kind of responsiveness in you, her attraction goes WAY down.
DO THIS – Texting Tip 3: Keep your head on straight when texting girls
To win at the texting game, you have to keep an abundance mentality at all times. It’s related to some of the other mistakes and issues I mentioned before.
Over-texting a girl is usually the result of neediness and insecurity. What I’m saying is, guys feel they need everything to go well with her because he’s secretly afraid it’s the only shot he’ll have with a girl for a very long time.
To avoid this scarcity mindset, you want to have a total abundance mentality when you’re texting women. Just imagine that you have a hundred other incredibly hot girls that are already interested in you.
This will help you from getting too stuck on that One Girl and prevents you from texting her too much.
Or from being too needy in your text messages.
And lastly:
DO THIS – Texting Tip 4: Make sure you’re challenging her by teasing her
Don’t be afraid to poke a little fun at the girl you’re texting. It’s the single most effective thing you can do to get her attraction up and her sexual interest going.
Of course you should do it in a playful, good-natured way. Not only does teasing a girl make her laugh, it shows that you’re not a just a kiss-ass.
Teasing demonstrates that you have confidence with women, because you’re not afraid of her disapproval.
Which will then help build attraction with more women – it’s an upward spiral.
Here’s an example of a fun text to send to a girl that shows confident, cocky teasing: “You’re a closet geek aren’t you…? except without a closet :)”
So there you go… a few tips of what to text girls, and a few things you shouldn’t text girls if you can avoid it.
Always keep in mind the big picture when you’re texting – you’re aiming for a goal: to get her to meet up with you in person. Because that’s where everything good will happen with her.
