A lot of guys come up to me and ask: “Carlos… why do women never go for nice guys, and why do they always fall in love with the bad boy?” And here’s why…

A bad boy is one big contradiction:

– He is the dangerous, extremely confident man who doesn’t give a crap about society, rules, or any form of authority and is full of adventure VERSUS the small, innocent boy in a big man’s body that needs saving in a moment of weakness because he can’t help himself

– He’s the perfect escape from boring every day life filled with its routines, nagging and obligations VERSUS the escape is only temporarily, sooner or later a woman knows that her heart will be broken, and she accepts… because he was only an escape, he “doesn’t count”

– When a bad boy is with a woman, he lives in the moment, and makes love to her like it’s the last thing he’ll ever do: raw, passionate sex and always making her feel so very CLOSE to him… VERSUS the times he vanishes into thin air, nowhere to be seen, nothing to be heard, who knows if the rebel in him will ever want to come back to you..

– When you’re with him as a woman, he’s oh so sweet and caring VERSUS when you disagree or argue with him? He’s stonecold, harsh, full of criticism and downright abusive to women just like me… just kidding!

– If you pay close attention to his posture, his gestures, how he moves and his entire body language? Nothing seems more natural, and in control than he does… superbly dominant over his surroundings VERSUS get him angry and he loses all that control, he turns into a living hell..

So if you want to become as attractive as bad boys are, you need to capture the essence of his being which boils down to two things:

1) Being unpredictable
2) Being a mix of pleasure & pain

Being unpreditacble: hot and cold, caring and abusive, very present and far away… no need to explain that right fellas? A woman simply never knows what’s next around a bad boy, and that’s exciting.. it creates attraction and leaves her wanting more…

Being a mix of pleasure and pain: caring and criticizing, very present and far away, in control and out of control, indepedent and helpless, dangerous and innocent, making a woman forget all about her worries and BEING her worry..

As you can see, all you “only” need to do is master the art of being ambigious, of giving a woman contradictions. In fact, if you closely and think about it, you’ll see that ALL men that are successful with women have one or multiple of these contradictions in them that keep making them attractive to women.

Because without them? They would become boring, grow stale, become uninteresting for a woman because it’s just more of the same. But Carlos… does that mean I haven’t “done my job” even when I managed to get into a relationship with a woman?

YES it does… because the game never stops: there always has to be sexual tension or the attraction will become less and less until it dies out. That’s the harsh, cold reality for most beginners…

But for people who enjoy learning more and more about women, and dating? It’s a blessing in disguise, because it only means neverending fun to have

Pointers On How To Start Being More Of A Bad Boy

1) If someone turned her down for a job, insulted her or did something else she didn’t like – offer to pay those guys a visit
2) If she asks you how your day was – make sure you highlight the parts where you judged others, teased them to death and didn’t give a crap about something and leave the rest
3) If she needs a friendly solution to one of her problems (for example: “I don’t understand this assignment I’m supposed to do”) – instead of helping her, offer to burn her school books with her, trash her workplace, etc.
4) Talked to her 3 days in a row? – find something to do instead on the 4th day (like calling a friend to hang out), or leave earlier than usual
5) Been sweet to her a couple days in a row? – find someone to be judgmental about and be critical of what she says, and if she complaints about it? be even MORE critical
6) Slow your body language down – start walking at half the speed you were used to, use your hands when talking and talk more slowly AND move those hands more slowly, never look down when walking, etc.

I’ve written stuff about inner game, building confidence, insecurities and approach anxiety before but this time I want to take you on a journey – a journey through your own inner issues, the stuff that’s holding you back from achieving the success with women you really want… and it’ll be me, Carlos Xuma, and you… against your inner issues!

So stay tuned for more inner game goodness…

And for now, if you want more examples of how bad boys get the girl? Then check out my blog post with Barney Stinson tips to pick up chicks, because Barney from the TV show How I Met Your Mother is THE example of how bad boys do it.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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