You want to know something funny? Whenever I stop a random guy on the street and ask him what kind of woman he falls for all he can say is that he has to have good looks, has to funny, has to be sweet and something going for herself too.

Who falls into this category that the guy just described? Half of the friggin’ female population!

Now in his mind, keeping all options open is a smart bet… but when you tell a woman what your type is (and they almost always ask somewhere along the way) and tell her that stuff most avergae guys say?

All she will think is: “this guy wants A woman, not necessarily me… he wants ANY woman he can get, so he doesn’t have a genuine interest in ME as a person! He just wants a woman’s love and attention, not necessarily MY love and attention…”

And BOOM! You just ruined things for yourself just by saying that one sentence buddy…

The truth of the matter is: not only do you come across like you have a genuine interest when you’re very specific, but the more selective you are about what your type of woman is, the more successful with women & dating you’ll actually be!

Allow me to explain…

The Quarter Test

Once upon a time these scientists did a test with two groups of people. The first group of people was sent to the town on Day 1 and they just had to walk around for a couple hours and bring back whatever stuff they could find.

The second group however, was sent to town on Day 2 and they had to walk around for the same amount of hours but had to bring back as many quarters as they could find. Not dollar bills, not other kinds of coins, they could only bring back quarters.

At the end they counted how many quarters group 1 had found, which was only a couple quarters, and how many group 2 had found… and although group 2 had walked in the exact same part of town, they had found FIVE times as many quarters as the first group!

Now think of it as a metaphor for women: if you go out to meet a woman while you like latinas the most, then at the end of the day you’ve only met your type a couple times (if at all)… but if you only go out to meet latinas? You’ll meet dozens of them.

Why?

It’s called having a purpose… and it has many advantages:

1) If you know exactly what you want, you’ll be more motivated to find it and work harder for it. You’ll spend more time on getting it almost every day, you’ll continue with trying to get it during a much longer period of time and every single result you achieve (for example getting a latina’s number) motivates you to get even more.

2) Women are attracted to men who know exactly what they want, and if you’re very picky with your “list of demands” you’ll be one of the few (if not only) guy she knows who demands more than just a pretty face… you’ll be hard to get, and if there’s one thing women like than it’s having to chase a man around.

Why?

Because men usually chase women, so by letting her making an effort you stand out in the crowd… and she’ll try to live up to your high standards.

3) If you know exactly what you want and don’t settle for less, than it’s easy to become much better at attracting your “perfect 10” very quickly…

Here’s an example that will make you understand: say you like latinas, then why bother learning Russian? Why bother going to “regular” club nights?

If you like latinas, you learn Spanish, you go to concerts of Hispanic music artists, you go to all the latin nights in clubs and bars, you go on a vacation to Miami…

And with all the experience with latinas you’ll get because of that, it’s easier to meet MORE latinas in the future!

So dudes, you better make sure you find yourself a purpose because WITH a purpose, it’s so much easier (and much more fun too) to quickly get more dates with YOUR type of women without much effort!

It’s funny because when I think back to the dozens of men I’ve coached so far, I’m around a 100 I believe, the number one complaint they have is: “I feel like I have to settle for less and can’t get the girls I want” after which I asked them “so what type of girls DO you want then?”

And none of them really knew…

It was exactly why they didn’t have the success with women they wanted: they didn’t know what THEIR definition of success with women was yet! After I showed them my techniques for developing a purpose that I myself have used for almost 5 years now, I saw an a-ha moment in every single one of them…

Something connected in that brain of theirs, and they started having more success with the women they wanted… and guess what? It made them more confident, happier, more social, more open, and much more in the mood for talking… which are ALL things that women find attractive so they had even more success because of it!

Do you see now why having a purpose and knowing what YOUR type of woman is, is so important? And if you want to start getting more dates just like the men I’ve coached, then start with finding yourself a purpose my friend.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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