An insider’s look on when to call women, the three day rule and why the truth about successfully calling women is out of reach for most single men. http://www.win-with-women.com
Amsterdam, the Netherlands May 19, 2010 - According to the Urban Dictionary (www.urbandictionary.com) the three day rule is: “A rule to prevent a man from appearing desperate or needy after attaining a girl's phone number that he (just) met. Following this rule, you are to wait 3 days before calling in order to create suspense and appear non-needy.”
The three day rule was popularized by such films as "Swingers", but also the modern day college flicks about sex, drugs, and collega crazyness. But is the three day rule really real or is it just an urban myth?
Carlos Xuma, a top dating coach and owner of dating coach company Win With Women revealed:
“The three day rule is to men who want to call women and ask them out on date what being extremely tired is to driving your car. A dangerous combination. It’s ridiculous, it’s insane for all single men to use it, believe in it, or even think about when they ask themselves when to call women. Why? Because it screws up their chances with women. It screws them up big time.”
To prove his point, Carlos Xuma wants to share 3 facts he knows from experience as a top dating coach for men. He asks all single men on the planet to think twice before they follow the three day rule when deciding when to call women because:
1) He says: “I did my research on top sites for people to get together and talk about the dating game like Askmen.com and the forums of dating site Plenty Of Fish. Here’s what I found: 79% of all women researched say they won’t answer the phone anymore if a guy doesn’t call them within the first 1-3 days. Only 9% of all men researched say they had success after waiting 3 days or longer before calling women. Half of those successful guys needed to come up with a good excuse when they finally did make the call before the woman would even consider dating them.”
Knowing the rule is a Hollywood invention, a certain saying comes to mind here: “Don’t believe everything you see on TV!”
If that doesn’t provide single men with enough clues about the right way to call women and when it’s too late to call them, Carlos Xuma pointed out some interesting facts about female psychology.
When asked for more proof of why the three day rule screws up any single man’s chances with women, Carlos advises all single men thinking about when to call women:
2) “Don’t wait longer than a day with calling a woman. Extensive studies have shown that attractive women, on average, are approached in one way or another at least 6 times every single day. Any single guy that has ever went to the clubs and bars in his hometown probably has a gut feeling that the research results are correct, but do they know what it means? If single men wait 3 days before calling a woman, she will have at least been approached by 18 guys.”
Carlos then says: “That makes it hard for any guy to stand out, to be remembered, to make a lasting impression. The longer guys wait with calling a woman, the more likely the situation that she’ll have forgotten all about them. And oh yeah: women actually have a life and goals too, which makes meeting and dating them after getting their phone number even harder.”
As a solution, Carlos Xuma highly recommends all single men to go to Google right now and to look for more information about when to call women. To search for the truth behind how to call women. To discover why and how the three day rule that has unfortunately been popularized by Hollywood is fake, why it screws up their chances with women, and what to do about it.
3) Carlos Xuma, being a dating coach that has been coaching men with meeting and dating women for years now, also intelligently points out: “A lot of my fans and customers have problems with deciding when to call women and with learning how to call women. Why? Because even when a woman does pick up the phone after my guys wait several days with calling her, she’s not happy about having been put in the waiting room. Hell, usually the women think a guy is playing games and as such the women start playing games too.”
He continues: “You know, before they came to me for dating advice my fans and customers had women pick up the phone once and never again afterwards, had women talk to them for hours at a time over the phone and then never show up for the date and worse. Hell, one of my students even got robbed by a woman’s crook brother because she wanted her revenge. Isn’t that crazy!? Anyone using the three day rule is crazy too in my book.”
He got visibly angry when realizing how little single men all over the world sometimes know about how to truly be successful with women. And at the end of his rant about when to call women, Carlos concluded:
“Look, the reason I get mad is that I went through the same stuff with women. I screwed up my chances, like, all the time. One time, I was in debt with the wrong people for over $1200 because a gold digger chick played me for all my money. That’s how much I sucked with women. So yeah, I get mad when another average guy like me has to go through the same stuff I went through while the truth about the three day rule can easily by found on my site and on many other sites for that matter.”
After hearing the facts and opinions, a single man can only conclude that the three day rule probably is (at best) a hyped up word created by Hollywood. An urban myth.
And as those Mythbuster guys from the Disovery Channel would say:
“The three day rule myth: true or false? False!”
Carlos Xuma is the author of The Simple Inner Game System and a trusted authority on dating advice for men. During the last 2 years, he has helped 603 men approach 10,854 women, get 2,713 phone numbers, and go on 904 dates if not more. All because of his work and the work of his dating coach company Win With Women.
Carlos has been recognized by the Seduction Syndicate (an association for dating coaches) and several other dating experts across the globe for giving top notch quality dating advice for men from a unique perspective.
He and his guys over at Win With Women have spoken in front of hundreds of single men on such topics as why leaving a message on a woman’s voicemail is a bad idea, how to make sure women pick up the phone every single time before a guy gets their phone number, and the top 10 things not to do when approaching women. Carlos hopes to finally reveal the truth about when to call women, creating attraction and about how meeting and dating women really works.
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Link to the original news item:
When To Call Women: Why The Three Day Rule Screws Up A Guy’s Chances With Women
P.S. I have something for you that you might learn a hell of a lot from: the story of how we got started as Win With Women... which includes the problems I have had to overcome to be successful with women.
Check out the story of how we got started here
P.P.S. Want to know what to do if you call her within OR after three days but she doesn't answer the phone? Then check out my blog post about what to do if she doesn't answer the phone.
