The message subject is NOT something you should skip when you want to learn how to pick up girls online, because…most women receive DOZENS of messages a day…very attractive ones even a HUNDRED or more messages PER DAY in their profile inbox.

If you would know ANY woman with a profile and asked her about her inbox, you would already know what 99% of those enormous amounts of messages are all about: things like the shallow “you’re hot,” the needy “you’re gorgeous..so add me on [email protected]” or the overly nice one “I don’t know if you think I’m your type, but I would like to do blabla for you or take you to blabla.”

What do you see first, BEFORE you open up a new message? Think about it. Don’t worry, I’ll wait…

It’s the SUBJECT of the message!

Here’s the story: in marketing, they’ve done hours and hours of research on the effect of the headline of an advertisement versus the effect of the advertisement content…and what do you think was the result? Compelling headline, so subjects, INCREASED response with 10 to 20%.

Guess what subjects can do for YOU then? If you know how to “sell” yourself and make up a compelling one, you can ALSO increase the response to your “ads”…your messages.

The question then, off course, becomes…but how DO you make such a compelling subject?

“Sucker” Subjects…Those That Will Definitely NOT Mean Success For You

Next to the content of 99% of the messages being almost EXACTLY the same…guess what happens with the subjects of those messages?

One of three very “unique” ones is used: no subject (never took the time), the greetings subject (hi, hello, hi there, etc.) and the cheezy subject. What’s a cheezy subject? A shallow compliment based on her looks (you’re beautiful), a joke (see below), an overly used quote from a movie or song (“I’ll be back” or whatever) and pick up lines (heaven must be missing an angel and so on).

Here are some examples I took off a random female profile…

– Subject: you are the perfect example of beauty
– Subject: hello isabella
– Subject: hi
– Subject: HI HOW ARE YOU
– Subject: 3 ducks walked into a bar…
– Subject: Shame on you…(Your a theif.. you stole some stars from the night and made them your eyes)

And blablabla…THAT is what a woman will literally think. Just imagine receiving 50 messages per day with 20 times being hello, 20 having no subject and 10 being cheezy…every day, 365 days a year.

How long would it take for you to NOT open the messages with those subjects anymore?
My guess: you would stop within the first week = around 140 times hello, 140 times no subject and 70 times cheezy!

Here’s a hidden gem for you: actually TRY it…by searching on Google for photos of some random, cute woman and setting up a fake female profile with those photos on any given social networking site such as Facebook, MySpace, whatever. Take a look at her inbox once a week and read the first 20 messages (and their subjects) everytime you do…and you’ll KNOW what should be the difference between your crappy competition and YOU by knowing what doesn’t work. To know, is to slaughter the competition.

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Onward…

How To Pick Up Girls Online Lesson #1: Don’t skip the subject, use a simple greeting or use a cheezy subject
You’ll get SKIPPED when she’s going through her inbox, it’s a sign of you NOT reading her profile and if you’re cheezy by being interested in her looks only and not who she is…you will turn her off BIG TIME.

How To Pick Up Girls Online Lesson #2: The “Language Barrier”
You may think you’ll get her attention by turning on your Caps Lock and WRITING EVERYTHING IN BIG LETTERS, but to her? She’ll think: you’re needy for a conversation with a woman, that you’re an attention whore AND she’ll be annoyed because she has to read entire subjects or messages that use Caps Lock.

It get’s worse…you may think talking slang like 2night, l8, well hello thur, how r u and so on are cool…but the only women you’ll attract with those are women with dyslexia or women who think they need to be “ghetto” to earn a living or live their lives.

Next to this, Women who aren’t hip to the whole Instant Messenger hype where late becomes l8 and today becomes 2day, and there are lots of attractive ones in this category, will have a hard time reading your stuff.

Whatever’s the case, you’re narrowing down the odds of attracting a cute little lady IMMENSELY…as it has been proven that spelling mistakes guys make annoy women.

Why? “If he can’t even spell right, and that during the first time he’s trying to contact me…WHAT ELSE will he do wrong or go wrong with him, my god…” need I say more? That isn’t something you want them to think.

So check spelling, make sure the caps lock is off and one more thing: punctuation like three times the ? or ! will make you come across like you’re getting overly excited OR are needy for attention in much the same way the Caps Lock it…

Clues For Doing The Right Thing

So we now know women get annoyed by subjects that aren’t about them, subjects that are either predictable, lame, cheezy or boring, messages with no subject AT ALL, misspelled words and so forth…and since we now know the BAD, we can go the opposite way and do GOOD for ourselves.

What women want in a subject (and in messages too by the way) is…
– It has to be about THEM and not a shallow, cheezy or needy thing you can send to ANY woman
– It has to get their ATTENTION…and stand out from the hundreds of hello’s, no subjects etc.

There are some difficulties unique to writing subjects that we have to pay attention to while doing this though: subjects are always WAY shorter then messages, which means we need to give every word we use as much meaning as possible to be able to get her attention.

And what’s a better way to get her attention then playfully TEASING her about who she is? This does both things at once for you AND it can be done in just a few words…resulting in just the unique subject you need for your message to stand out…which makes her OPEN IT.

Using Her Own Life “Against Her”

I’ve already explained all the key features of sexual communication that will make her feel attracted to you, with one of them…the most FUN one…being to tease them.

And here’s how: look at her profile and look for the first hobby or interest you can find or respond to…foods, sports, her idols, movies, TV shows, nothing’s safe. EVERYONE has things they love to do, see, hear, etc. but NO ONE wants to overdo it…since ADDICTIONS are mostly perceived to be a bad thing by society. Guess what you’re going to accuse them of?

There’s her inbox with everybody saying hi, something cheesy, nothing at all in their subject…and there’s this stranger who’s playfully accusing her of being an addict of one of the things she loves to do most: “I can’t believe he’s saying that!” “Oh no he didn’t”, “How DARE he!” en “Just who in the hell does he think he is?” are the most common reactions to it…and they all make her open your message to find out just who in the hell dares to say that…and you’re IN!

Here are some examples to show you what I mean…

– She loves horses > SUBJECT: Heyyy…horse junkie 😛
– Her favorite food is pasta > SUBJECT: Heyyy…Italy freak 😛
– She just loves to play soccer > SUBJECT: Hi there…soccer mom 😛
– Her all-time favorite movie is Scarface ? SUBJECT: Hello…Montana maniac 😛

She’ll instantly know what you’re talking about and as you can see…all it takes is 3 to 4 words.
First you greet, then you mention her hobby or interest and then you give it the “addiction level status” using words such as: junkie, addict, freak, maniac, groupie, etc. and let her know it’s in the spirit of playfulness. The latter is done using the power of the emoticon…the :P. What does it stand for? Just type it in on MSN Messenger or Yahoo Messenger, look for it in your Hotmail emoticon options and you’ll see a face sticking his tongue out…there you go: a playful face.

Be sure to be specific: everybody goes to clubs sometimes, everybody drinks sometimes, we all have ourselves a snack…so see if you can answer the question WHICH. Which club? Which drink? Which snack, or which fast food chain? You get the idea…so be creative with it and have fun!

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Let’s continue…

But…What Do You Do If Her Profile Doesn’t Include Hobbies & Interests?

Hey, it happens. Some women just made themselves a profile and didn’t got around to the interests and hobbies yet…some are just simply too lazy (or secretive) to fill them in, but you still want to send them a message with a compelling subject, right?

There are ways of avoiding this “obstacle” though…and here are some things you should pay attention to when you happen to stumble across such a lazy or new chick:

– Where is she from (internationally speaking)? If she’s originally from another country, you can bet your *ss on her still receiving messages in your own language…so talk to her in HER language using the following format: “Heyyy…miss Argentina :P” so greet..pause…miss –her country here-. I highly recommend you search on Google for a translator or go to www.freetranslation.com and see if her language is on there and TRANSLATE the greeting and the miss. An example with a Spanish woman from Spain would be “Holaaa…senorita España :P”. Who talks to her in her own language? NO ONE…so you instantly stand out with your subject, and the lesser known her country is? The better!

– Where is she from (regionally speaking)? Different people have different habits, traditions, cultures and even dialects, right? Again, everybody’s riding in the normal way of your own language…while her school, city, region, state or whatever may have another dialect or habit. Why not Google for it quickly and use it to your advantage? Tease them with their own dialect or about food for example (“Heyyy…crappy Cajun cook :P”). Remember to be specific though.

– What doesn’t add up on her profile? Think about everything that’s considered to be normal or more normal and then look at her profile: a dark brunette with REALLY light blue eyes? Blonde, blue eyes is normal…so maybe she’s an “Heyyy…miss undercover blonde :P.” If she’s rich but has piercing, tattoos or whatever all over the place? Rich maybe means spoiled, but definitely not street…so maybe she’s having an “Heyyy…miss identity crisis :P”. Best thing is…you’re also setting yourself up to explain and tease her more with what the subject is all about in the CONTENT of the message (tell her you noticed she has a lot of money but looks like a dirty, backstreet biker and that you call THAT an identity crisis for example).

– What if her profile is “empty”? Sometimes you’ll have profiles that almost seem (or actually ARE) empty and the profile has one or more of the following: no interests & hobbies, no photos (or only one), no descriptions, no comments, and so forth. What to do in THAT case? ’Heyyy…empty profile girl :P’ and you explain it all and tease her with it in the content of your message. You can accuse her of being too dumb to understand what “save profile changes” and “a computer” means (use the “”, it’s funny and emphasizes your tease even more) and more in your message. Remember that nobody talks about and teases her with the empty profile, so this is a perfect technique for the very new girls and very lazy girls with hardly any profile BUT…warning: being specific (and talking about her) as much as possible will always work better because it grabs her attention more and makes her curious to open your message more and she’ll do it faster that way…so use this one as a “last resort.”

Here’s a juicy secret: say, you send a message to a horse junkie on Day 1 and discover another horse junkie on Day 4…it would be a WASTE of time if you had to type in that ENTIRE subject again. So what you do is turn on Auto-Fill. With most computers this is already on, but what does it do? When there’s a “form” you can fill in (a text box which you can write whatever you want in), it will actually STORE what you type in that text box on your computer…and the next time you want to write a message in that same text box? You type in just a few letters of the subject you want to use AGAIN and the Auto-Fill function will give you options you can pick from, pick the old one you already used and you just saved yourself a LOT of time! Youtube is an example of a website that also works with auto-fill, just try to search for any given video and you’ll see what I mean…

And remember: with all your subjects, keep it short, keep it simple, be specific…and be sure to EXPLAIN what you meant if things don’t add up on her profile and you’re using that for your subject. Have fun standing out and I’m MORE than sure you’ll win with women online…

One more thing: if you want more tips about how to pick up women online, then check out my blog post about how to pick up women online (click the link to read it.)

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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