What To Do On A Date: Great Things To Do On A Date
Most guys don’t have a clue about what to do on a date. They’re happy as can be when they get a woman’s number, ask her out and she says yes. But then what?
Because now it’s face to face, you don’t have much longer than a few seconds to think about what you’re going to say, there’s sounds, lights, other people all around you that distract your thinking (and her attention)… so it really gets down to business then. You have to have a plan for what to do on a date.
Don’t worry though, as I’ll you exactly what to do on a date: the where, the how, the what to say on a date, the what to do… everything!
What To Do On A Date:
Where To Go On A Date
Some people are more nervous than others, ESPECIALLY when they haven’t had a date in months, maybe even years…now, by getting in the mood you already prevent a lot of that. But there are other ways too though: what makes a man more nervous than looking her directly in the eyes when you first see her?
Allow yourself to get comfortable around her first and save the sitting across her for later on the date. It’s MUCH more confrontational, she’s looking at you and you’re looking back…which is VERY romantic and she’ll probably giggle if she’s into you but when you KNOW you’re going to be nervous? First sit next to her, instead of directly across…and walk to the location of your date (or sit next to her in the bus, train or taxi there) because that way, you don’t have to ALWAYS look her in the eyes because she isn’t directly in front of you.
Here’s another juicy secret: taking her somewhere to have a drink is nice, but it’s much smarter to go physical. By physical I mean eating with her somewhere or doing activities that need her and you to use parts (or all of) the body…yes I know that sounds creey, pervert-like, so let me explain:
- If you’re going to eat something somewhere, eat something different than what SHE’S having…why? Because you can ask her if it tastes good, and if it’s yes you want a bite too and she can feed you (which is romantic), or you can tell your stuff is good and feed HER…be sure to tease her with the spoon or fork by letting her bite for it and moving it away. It’s playful and it’s also romantic. You can also ask for something in return for that bite (a kiss on the cheek for example).
- There’s a MASSIVE amount of ways in which you can go physical: go out to a club, go rollerskating with her, play a sport you two like (basketball, soccer, anything goes), go swimming, go to the beach, etc. Why? Going to dance somewhere allows you to put your hands in her thighs, hold her hands, look her in the eyes. Sports allow you to teach her (making her stand there and put her in the right position to throw the ball or whatever with your hands) OR allows you to say “the winner gets a kiss” or a massage, etc. Going swimming allows you to throw her in the pool, lift her and jump in together while holding her. Going to the beach allows you to rub sunblock all across her back, belly, etc. Getting physical with her is almost like foreplay: you need to get comfortable with each other physically too, she’ll already be easier to get in the mood for something when you kiss or touch her afterwards because you’ve ALREADY touched her, etc.
- Another advantage of getting physical with her: sweat. You can offer her to change clothes at your place (slip into something more comfortable, which they always like to do) or offer her to take a shower and wash all the dirt off at your place…and there you go…a woman in your house taking her clothes off! As you can see, it’s setting yourself up so you can have some more fun in your own home…
What To Do On A Date:
When To Go On A Date
When you’re going out, off course you’re gonna do that at night…but when it comes to ALL other activities? Do it during the day or in the alte afternoon so it’ll be in the evening hours when you say your goodbyes. Why? Because most people are afraid of the dark…they just feel WAY less comfortable being somewhere in the evening or at night.
Especially with women on the first date: she could get raped, you could try to hurt her physically…these are all real possibilities she fears because how does SHE know that you really are who you are? Even when she has met you in person before, she still doesn’t know what your REAL plans are. Rape, murder and assault are all over the news, so she logically fears it.
Remember that she needs to feel comfortable around you, trust you and feel safe around you before she can decide if she’s coming home with you, if she wants to kiss you, etc. So make her feel as comfortable as possible and DON’T date her at night on the first date unless you’re going out to the clubs.
But wait – there’s more…holidays, vacations and during the weekends (including Friday) are the best days, because she doesn’t have to get up early in the morning the next day…which means you have MORE time because she doesn’t necessarily have to leave early (and it makes the boundary for her to sleep over lower guys)
What To Do On A Date:
What To Say On A Date
Remember that she’s, just as well as you and I are, bored and probably annoyed because of her predictable, lame daily routines and day-to-day obligations (paying the bills, doing the laundry, cooking some dinner, going to work etc.) and she never gets to meet someone interesting, go somewhere interesting or DO something interesting.
So by all means: AVOID being boring, predictable, lame and ordinary (and please…being needy or shallow doesn’t help either). Here are some do’s for you to have yourself a GREAT time, and a first kiss with her…
- Do you remember the character traits that create attraction? Being picky, being playful, being challenging, being sexual? Review the “Generate attraction” training (and the drill that comes with it) again and remember to continue doing that DURING the date! Same goes for the various techniques of “How to communicate with women online”…disqualify, misinterpret, have fun and smile! Show her you don’t take yourself too seriously, that you have a sense of humor, are enjoying yourself…and so will she.
- Did you read the “How to connect with her core being” Bonus report? It’s PERFECT during face-to-face conversations too…to build connections with her, talk about outrageous, exciting and fun topics, to get to know each other…
- And if you’re nervous, don’t know what to say anymore all of a sudden? A GREAT way of dealing with this (when she’s silent too) is turning it around on her! Tease HER with “you don’t know what to say anymore do you? How cute!” or “You’re nervous aren’t you? You’re cure when you’re nervous but you don’t have to stop talking silly!” Works every time.
- Remember to get yourself in the mood…and if you want to be more talkative? Call some male or female friends first to get yourself in the playful, opened up mood so talking to her will be a brease…
Follow these guidelines and you’ll do just fine…
What To Do On A Date
To Make It A Successful One
Thanks to choosing an activity over some random location, you two will already be touching each other because of feeding each other, teaching each other a move during a sport, rubbing sunblock (or better: aftersun too) on each other, dancing and so on.
Why is that so important? Because you can see HOW comfortable and safe she feels around you: if she allows you to touch her hips, the side of her belly, her arms, her shoulders, her legs without her moving the body part away? Then you know she’s comfortable enough to move forward, so do it MORE. When she isn’t comfortable, she isn’t YET which means you need to make her feel even more relaxed, attract her even more, connect with her even more and try again. And the moment you know she’s comfortable with you touching her? You know you can kiss her, because that’s the next step!
I want to show you guys a couple of powerful techniques you can use to have as much FUN as possible on whatever date you’re on…
Make a game out of everything. If she accidently spills a little bit of food, sunblock, dirt, drink or whatever on you or your clothes, consider THAT an invitation to squir sunblock all over her booty, to trip her (gently) and make her fall in the dirt, to “accidently” spill your drink on her too, etc. “Make love not war?” yeah right, because this way? You can be outrageous, playful, challenging AND laugh your ass off at the same time, it’ll be so much fun. Tickling her or playfighting with her does the trick too. Throw in a “the winner gets a…” too for even MORE fun!
Be spontaneous. Instead of going along with things exactly as planned, do something TOTALLY different. The more she’s familiar with what you’re going to do or where you’re going, the more fun it is. Example: if she’s from your neighborhood or city (or familiar in them) and you’re going to eat something somewhere, tell her where you’re going so she knows the route…and then halfway CHANGE it by saying no we’re going somewhere else. Than you can either REALLY go somewhere else OR take a detour of a couple of streets so it takes an extra 10 minutes to get there. It won’t be long before she realizes you walked in circles, she says it and then you say: “I know, I wanted to tease your IQ a little” with a slight smile…now THAT is teasing her…and a LOT of fun. Whenever you’re talking about some place that’s not far away, why not say “You know what? Let’s go there right NOW!”. Example: you’re in a restaurant talking about a beach, club or bowling alley or whatever…and then you go there last-minute!
“Winner” dates. Remember how you made a game out of everything? Why not say “the loser needs to take the winner to…” and move to another location? Or why not reverse roles because “the winner gives the loser a pitty gift?” This way, you’ll not only be able to be spontaneous, but also be able to make the date longer and most of all: increase trust. What’s a near PERFECT way of building trust, safety and making people feel comfortable? By showing them they ARE safe and comfortable with you on multiple locations AND while traveling there. I’ve had a couple of these winner dates that ended with having sex that same night (while it was the first date)…and you know why? Because in a woman’s mind, each location feels like 1 date…so going to 2 or 3 places feels like two or three DATES with you. Most women don’t want to have sex on the first date, but the2nd or the 3rd…catch my drift?
Have an invite ready. If you have pictures of you on vacation, while growing up or doing something out of the ordinary, or if you have a strange or unique thing in your home with a story such as a surfing board, a statue, an artifact, a strange book or whatever…why not get to talking about it and then, at the end of the date, tell her you wanna show her (and then tell the rest of the story with her in your house). You can also invite her in for a simple glass of wine, a movie she hasn’t seen but absolutely MUST see or a CD she by all means needs to listen to…all good reasons for inviting her in. If she feels comfortable enough to go inside with you, and you show her a good time WHILE she’s at your place…then the bed isn’t that far away my friend…
These are just 4 shortcuts out of my “bag of tricks” that allow you to have the best time EVER on dates.
It’s Still A Means To An End
When you think about what to do on a date, don’t attach all your confidence, self-worth, self-esteeem and so on to one, single date…because the DATE in itself is NOT the final stop, it isn’t where you want to end up. It’s a means to an end: you date her so you can kiss her, move from kissing to touching, from touching to sex…and who knows? Maybe after a number of dates from dating to a relationship.
Do you understand what this means?
It means you should plan ahead. Don’t wait for the last minute with the first kiss, because you’ll have more performance anxiety than an impotent male pornstar…instead, make it a PART of your date (and not the end). There are all kinds of astonishingly simple ways in which you can do this, but here’s a basic example:
Say you go to the beach and you both aim for that tan, you rub sunblock all over her, then you can either ask her for a stroll down the beach (women LOVE it…it’s very romantic) and start strolling through the sand with her. Then, you stop her and point to the sea and say something like…”it’s so beautiful here, real beautiful…just like you” then you turn towards her and there you go: a simple chance to kiss. Afterwards continue strolling, you’ll feel much less nervous AND you can KISS her goodbye at the end of the date.
Don’t overthink the kissing…EVER. I’ve kissed many women during the first date by just looking at them at some random time until they look back, compliment them on how they smell, how soft their hair is, how beautiful their eyes are etc. lean in…and kiss. Also did it lots of times without the compliment, because if you’ve built enough attraction and showed her you’re the exact same guy she was having fun with online, on the phone or whatever…she’ll want to kiss you just as much as you want to kiss her. Most women actually THINK “when will he kiss me…when will he kiss me!?”, just ask your female friends…
And just to make sure you don’t think about the outcome of any given date too much because there are still TONS of dates left that you need to go on…
To More Dating Success,
Carlos Xuma
Win With Women
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